Post # 1
I finally decided to make an account because I have been reading the boards for quite a while now! I am not engaged, and not waiting, infact I’m not even in a really relationship right now. However there is this guy whom I’ve had a thing for for about 8 years now. It just seems that no matter what something isn’t right. So I guess in a sense I am waiting… I am just pretty much obsessed with weddings, and everything to do with them so that’s why I made an account! That and everyone seems really nice, its a little family!
I have actually co-planned a wedding before so I may not be planning one now, but I definitely have some ideas and whatnot that can be useful. I just need an outlet to unleash my inner wedding-maniac LOL!
So thats me! Oh, and my name is Alex! Nice to meet all of you!
Post # 3
So glad you joined 🙂 Wow 8 years is a long time, tell me more about this guy and this thing you have for him!
Wedding porn is addicting, I hear ya on how obsessive it can be !
Post # 4
Nice to meet you Alex! Welcome to the Bee! Holy cow 8 years! I must know more lol
Post # 6
Well, seeing as it’s been 8 years it is clearly a long story! But I will try to shorten it up a bit!
I met him when I was 13/14, his cousin was my best friend at the time. He is a couple of years older than me. Of course when you’re that young any cute older guy is swoon worthy. But he was different, he is just the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. He just really cares about his family and the people that are around him, and he hes always there for you when you need him. That being said, he also has a side that is completely clueless and kind of “bad boy”ish. Anyways, so when I met him he knew I liked him, but brushed it off as some school girl crush. Understandable. Now I’ve had boyfriends, and flings and anything else in between the years but I always find my way back to him. Last year he moved a few hours away with his girlfriend, and I was devasted. I didn’t know what to do, but I thought he was happy so I didn’t say anything. But now I’m hearing from his family that this girlfriend of his is terrible to him. And he can’t even finish the schooling he needs (the reason they went up there) because the program is only offered back home. But he his Girlfriend doesn’t have a job so if he left she would probably be homeless.
So now I have this dilemma! I would never ever be a homewrecker. If hes with her, he can’t be with me. And I don’t want to be the reason they break up. But it KILLS me to see him hurting like this, and being used. Especially when I’ve practically been in love with him for YEARS! And I just feel it deep down that hes the one. Sometimes it just makes me so sad. I try to stay optimistic but I just can’t picture myself marrying anyone else. I’m mesmorized by him!
So thats that! Oh, and of course hes coming back home for Christmas and I’ll be there at his family party (I am very close with his family) and I’m sure that won’t be easy.
Post # 7
Hi Alex nice to meet you and welcome! 🙂
Post # 9
Hi Alex, welcome to the waiting boards, these ladies will support/answer any queries you may have, and above all help you when you need it 🙂
Post # 10
Please don’t be the other woman. No matter how used or disinterested he may seem, no one is forcing him to stay in a relationship with her- he is choosing to stay with her and you have to respect that. Also, even if he’s stuck living with her, he’s not stuck dating her. I know you said you don’t want to be a home wrecker, but it sounds like you’re tempted. Have you ever been in a relationship with him as an adult (18+)?
Post # 11
@britishbroccoli No way! I would never do anything to jeopardize his relationship with his current girlfriend. I really just want him to be happy, and if that is with her, then so be it. All I meant to say that it hurts me to see him so unhappy when I know he could be happier alone or with me. Infact, I would never even express my feelings for him if he was in a relationship. I am just minding my own business and letting nature take its course! I was just explaining the situation 🙂 Sometimes people stay in the relationship because they don’t want to hurt the other person, but deep down they know its not right (personal experience).
Oh and he is not even close to thinking of marriage. Not that that makes a difference, but just thought I would put that out there. And if he was, or was married I completely believe in the sanctity of marriage. My parents are divorced and I have been forever affected. I could never be “the other woman”. I want to be “the only woman”. But thanks for all of your kindness bees!
Post # 12
@aaalexx: I am just replying, because I went through this same thing several years ago. Met and older guy, was infatuated with him. He had a girlfriend he’d been with for years. Word on the street was that they were constantly up and down, but lately it had mostly been down. Well, I moved on and decided not to waste my time. A couple of years passed, and we got back in touch- by then he’d ended things with hsi girlfriend. We tried dating for a bit after that- no homewrecking required, just loads of patience, and the ability to step back sometimes. things didn’t work out for us, but they could for you. I’ve had a couple of friends who just never happened to be single at the same time, but once they were: fireworks!
Post # 13
@Berkana: Thanks! I don’t personally know anyone else in a similar situation. All of my friends are either in serious relationships or happy being single. I’m definitely not opposed to being in a relationship right now. I’m really open for anything to happen, because I know whatever is meant to be will be. I know that right now is not the time for us, infact even if he was single, I don’t know if we would work out right now. So I guess I was a bit confusing with my first post, I have no intention of causing any drama in his relationship. I just hate that little feeling I get whenever I see him thats like, oh hey what about me over here in the corner haha!
Post # 14
Hi Aaalexx, It’s nice to meet you. i hope you enjoy the fun and support of the boards. x x