Post # 1
My boy and I aren’t officially engaged yet, though we’re pretty much planning it all out already (just minus the date). I’ve been thinking about rings, and I’m just curious. Does anyone not have an engagement ring? I’ve noticed that once people are married, a lot of women just wear the bands anyway. Do any of you bees have (or plan to have) just a wedding band?
Post # 3
NotFroofy and I never had engagement rings, and just got wedding bands. There were a number of reasons for it, ranging from our not wanting to have to worry about flashy rings in high crime areas to wanting to avoid contributing to the “everyone must have a diamond ring” culture that makes conflict diamonds economically worthwhile.
Post # 4
I have an engagement ring and will be getting a wedding band. I will be wearing them both after the wedding.
Post # 5
No engagement ring here! Didn’t want one, told my husband-to-be I wouldn’t accept one if it was offered. Just wedding bands for us!
You’d be amazed, by the way, at how weirdly upset people can get if you politely explain that there is no ring to go along with your engagement. That just made me all the more determined not to have one!
Post # 6
i’m the opposite- i’m just gonna have the e-band and no wedding band. however, my ering is an eternity band.
Post # 7
No engagement ring for me, I didn’t want one. They sure are pretty, but I know I personally wouldn’t continue wearing it and just opt for my wedding band on a daily basis. It’s more of a lifetsyle and comfort thing for me. I’m pretty casual, kind of a clutz, not that into jewelry, and just prefer a single thin band, as opposed to a thick, or doubled one.
It’s also my second time around at this and back then, I did have a engagement ring, which I ended up putting away because I was a lot more comfortable with just one ring.
So no engagement ring for me, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Post # 8
I have both, but they don’t match (they match in style, but the cut of my e-ring is really unique and so the band doesn’t fit very well with it) so I plan to wear my wedding band on my left hand and can wear my e-ring on the right hand. If I don’t feel like having both rings on, I’ll just wear the wedding band. In some ways then, my band is kind of unnecessary but I really wanted something new to commemorate our marriage.
Post # 9
I am also not an engagement ring type of person. I wish I would of made it very clear to him not spend the money. I mentioned it a few times, but he said what would people think and that would make him look like he is cheap. So I was like ok if it has to be done. Were married now and I am considering putting the engagement ring (it’s a solitaire) into a necklace and just wearing the band… eventually..
Post # 10
I will be wearing both although my mom only wore a wedding band…I don’t know where my urge for one came from to be honest, but I will wear both on a daily basis.
Post # 11
I have an e-ring and really (really) only wanted a band. But FI wanted to do the e-ring so hey…
But, because I’m not huge on jewelry, rings, etc, I chose a very understated ring (IMO).
Post # 12
I have a simple engagement band (no solitaire) that I’ve been wearing since he proposed, and I won’t get a wedding band to wear with it. One ring is all that I can keep up with! It’s this, but in white gold.
Post # 13
I have an e-ring and will have a wedding band as well. However I saw do whatever you feel comfortable with. I will wear my e-ring and band together at first but eventually I think I’d like to just wear my wedding band. My finger feels crowded with two rings so I think I’ll feel more comfortable with just one.
Post # 14
I guess part of me just hasn’t found a style I really love. My boy is also pretty traditional, so nothing is for sure yet. I know some jewelers solder rings together, but I feel like I’d like the option to wear one or the other (if I had both).
Post # 15
I have an engagement band but will not wear my wedding band and engagement ring together.
At first I thought I would but I want a floral design wedding band it will not go with my e-ring. My e-ring is splint shank so I think it gives the illusion of a wedding band already. I’ll wear my wedding band most days but wear my engagment ring when I want. My e-ring will have just as much meaning as my wedding band will.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
@nmsoonerbride: this ring is gorgeous!
i wear both on my left hand, and they don’t match, but the band is just plain white gold – I have seen people do every combination – I think it’s just personal preference