Post # 1
BF and I just got back from our first round of ring-shopping, and I am SO overwhelmed. I went in knowing I liked cushion and oval stones on a delicate pave band and was toying with the idea of a halo, and I did definitely like the cushion with pave band and halo a lot (similar to the Harry Winston “The One” setting), along with the Tiffany Novo.
But now we’re at home and I’m paging through all of the marketing materials they gave us and I’m like, “Hmm, I only tried on one oval before I dismissed it – should I have tried on more?” “Oh, I didn’t try on any emeralds!” etc. So overwhelming!
Anyone have any advice on this part of ring shopping? BF told me to sleep on it and then we’ll go visit the actual jeweler he’ll be using in a week or two (we were mainly window-shopping today at DeBeers, Tiffany, HW, etc. to get ideas).
I am so excited about getting engaged soon, but I’m also so overwhelmed by all of the options, and I don’t feel like I fell in love with anything today. There was a lot of stuff I liked, but nothing where I was like, “OMG, this is it!”. I just don’t want to look at my ring in a few years and wish it was different. Help, please!
Post # 3
@Cinderella7: I think your SO is very wise. If you are going to see your jeweler in a few days you will know what sticks in your head. Then I bet you will be able to make a lovely combination of all the things you love the best!
Post # 4
My advice would be to go look at rings casually with a friend. I know that when I went with my FI (then boyfriend) it was a much more emotional deal than when I went to try rings on for fun with a friend. My head was cooler and I got a chance to really evaluate different styles, without thinking, “OMFG I’M TRYING ON RINGS WITH THE BOYFRIEND!!” Take your time and don’t rush!
Post # 5
Definitely relax and don’t put so much pressure on yourself.
FI (then BF) and I went to a Shane Co (I don’t know if they have them in CA – they’re HUGE, though, and have hundreds of different settings and a “no-pressure” sales tatic – no one works on commission. I literally had no idea what I liked…I just knew what (few) things I didn’t like. We were there for about two hours, and I tried on SO many settings, and I was honestly worried I would never find “my” ring. There were some I liked…but I was worried, like you, that I wouldn’t like them forever. Finally, we were in the last case, and I tried on one more ring. And it was it! No ifs, ands, or buts. I almost cried (although…I didn’t not have a “this is it!” moment with a dress…so maybe some people don’t have that ring shopping?). Our original plan was that I’d pick out three or four settings and have FI decide, but there was no choosing – there was one setting I loved and that was it.
Now, after we left (and before FI proposed – there was a four month wait), did I doubt myself? Sure! I thought “I didn’t even look at any oval diamonds! Or halos! I just figured I wouldn’t like xyz style of ring, maybe it would have been better!”. Do I still sometimes see a XYZ setting and look at it a little wistfully? Definitely! But at the end of the day my ring is MY ring – it really fits me and my personality (everyone says so!).
So…yes. Relax. Sleep on it. And have fun with it! Once you decide, you have no reason to go into jewelry stores and try stuff on 😉
Post # 6
When you find a ring you like, go have a coffee & then go back if you still love it & can’t think of anything else then that’s the one. It’s the best piece of advice I’ve been given from the hive. It worked for me. Best of luck.
Post # 7
I think this is the best part of getting engaged 🙂 enjoy every minute!
Post # 8
Look online too at unique rings and styles, and on the boards here! I’ve always had my heart set on a halo ring, and I had two rings that I loved picked out. When I went to work and showed one of the girls online she said they were pretty, but very common. I was hurt by it but I also realized she was right…I had seen them before. I’m kind of plain in every way and realized then that I didn’t want a plain ring. I love the halo cut though. Then weddingbee came into my life and I saw so many rings with different golds, stones, etc. I have a morganite halo with rose gold coming in soon. I can’t wait to get it! If it wasn’t that, it would’ve been a lilac sapphire halo in white gold or platinum. If you had told me that I would pick something with color a year ago I would’ve laughed! Can’t wait to see what you pick out!
Post # 10
I actually hated ring shopping, lol.
My advice is be firm with what you like and what you don’t like. When I would go look at rings the salespeople kept trying to pressure me into large diamonds, when all I was interested in were rings with a peridot stone.
Post # 11
Try taking pictures of all the styles you like and tried on…then when you’re home look through them when you’re not feeling pressured etc… good luck
Post # 12
@Cinderella7: Try to keep in mind whether you like high settings or low, and what kind of wedding band you would like to put beside it. Many engagement rings won’t allow a straight band to sit flush beside them, so it’s a good thing to keep in mind. You will only wear it alone for a year or two (probably) but you will wear it with your wedding band for many years!
Try going alone to a few stores… I found it much easier to be less attached without my lovely bf smiling at me when I tried them on.
Post # 13
Thank you so much for all of the good advice and feedback! I’m glad I’m not the only one who felt freaked out and overwhelmed while ring shopping. 🙂
I looked at the two styles I liked again this morning and yup, I still like them a lot! I’ll take that as a a good sign. I’ll continue to poke around the board and get some ideas for our next trip to the jeweler.
Thanks again for all the advice, Bees!