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    superstar    April 2009   Bay Area

    how many friends came to your wedding?  (i'm not including their guests/spouses/or family)...like people that's unrelated to you...and about how many did you invite?

     I'm getting kinda sad cause a handful of really good friends can't make it (babies etc and all would need to come from east to west coast)... even tho the majority are coming... I feel sad.

     
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    Tanya123      

    I'm sorry you're feeling sad.  It's unfortunate but common, these days.  But I think you touched on what the problem is.  Most of your friends are your age.  So they too have lots going on.  1) As you said some are starting families.  That's always hard to juggle. 2)  They live all over.  It's certainly common these days to migrate all over, not just stay where you grew up.  So you might have high school friends, who are no longer living in your hometown.  Or maybe you went away to college and met all of your college GF from all over the country.

    I can't remember exactly how many I invited.  Most were able to attend.  But a few very important gals were not able to attend.  Hang in there and enjoy your day.

     

     
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    Taye    July 11, 2009   NYC/Alabama wedding

    Like you, superstar, I haven't gotten married yet, but I'm sure many of my friends won't be able to (or will choose not to) attend the wedding, for all the reasons Tanya123 mentioned. Sure, it's a little sad to think that some of the people we love won't be there with us, but I'm just thinking about everyone who WILL be there! Don't let this put a damper on your day.

     
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    emileee       San Jose, CA

    we had a few important friends that were unable to make it but the majority of our friends did and they really made our day.  the day is not about who isn't there but who is!  try not to let it get you down because as long as you and the groom are there, it will be a beautiful day!

     
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    driftslikesmoke    January 2, 2010   Atlanta, GA

    I think that right now, a lot of people don't have the resources to travel. It's rough, because we want to celebrate with the people we love, but I know that almost everyone in my life is cutting corners, and that's unfortunately going to result in a lot of people declining our wedding invites. :(

    If many of your friends who are declining live in the same area, you could try to throw a little party/get together in their neck of the woods some time after your wedding to celebrate, share pictures, and spend some time with the friends who couldn't be with you on your wedding day. It won't be the same, I know, but at least it's a chance to celebrate with those friends. 

    I'm sorry you're feeling sad. Good luck!

     
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    Sparkles    ~*A June 2009 Bride*~   Ca

    Superstar- Iwent out to dinner with some friends of mine last night. I was recapping with them what I liked about their wedding. The husband said something that was so moving- he said he was most amazed by the fact- that while many people couldn't attend, those that did attend really filled him up with such imense gratitude. to have the whole room filled with people rooting him and his wife on, showering blessing on them...

    Ithink while it is a bummer some people cannot attend, we have to be thankful and in the 'present' to take in the ones who do are able to make it. =o) I would focus on that. And later, go celebrate on a separate occasion with those who couldn't make it.

     

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