(Closed) Just wondering…

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would say that we have been together x years but just got married x years ago.  Some people do ask how long you have been married now instead of asking how long you have been together.

Post # 4
Member
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ll say we’ve been together for X and married for X. 

We’ll have been together 7+ years when we get married.

Post # 5
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1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with MissAsB, together for so many years, but married for this many. 

Post # 6
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Actually, today is our dating anniversary!  We’ve been together for 7 years and that’s what we tell people when they ask.  Unless they ask how long we’ve been married, then we say married for 1.5 years.  We’ve been together too many years to just start over again, so we didn’t wipe the slate clean. 🙂

Post # 7
Member
5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I usually say the same…we’ve been together for 5 1/2 years and married for 2 1/2 of them!

Post # 8
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I am like the others… We have been together x number of years and married x number of years.

Post # 9
Member
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Concurred on the dating for X years, but married X years. 🙂

Post # 10
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think the slate gets wiped clean.  That foundation of 9 years (for us it will be 7 years) is why we got married, I’m proud of how long we’ve been together.  So I’ll specify how long we’ve been together overall and that we’ve been married for however long.

Post # 11
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1060 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

i concur as well! no way would i want to discount the six years we spent together beforehand! 🙂

@lillindy – happy dateiversary!

Post # 13
Member
2304 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

No shouldn’t wipe the slate clean.

Post # 14
Member
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It doesn’t wipe the slate clean, but this issue will probably diminish in importance the longer you’ve been married. My parents dated 5 or 6 years before marrying, but they don’t mention that anymore when people ask about their relationship. They just say they’ve been married 27 years. Maybe it stops being important around the time you’ve been married longer than the time you dated.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree with marjojo. Once you’ve been married longer than you dated can just use the wedding anniversary as the mark.

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