Post # 1
Me and FI have been together almost 9 years before we get married (just 4 days short of the actual anniversary). I was just wondering, does the slate get wiped clean when people ask you how long you’ve been married/together? My friend posted this question on her myspace when she got married (they were together 5 years) and it’s been at the back of my head for a while now. Does the count get cleared? What do you say we’ve been together for 9 years but we’ve only been married 1? What are you thoughts on the counting of the years?
Post # 3
I would say that we have been together x years but just got married x years ago. Some people do ask how long you have been married now instead of asking how long you have been together.
Post # 4
I’ll say we’ve been together for X and married for X.
We’ll have been together 7+ years when we get married.
Post # 5
I agree with MissAsB, together for so many years, but married for this many.
Post # 6
Actually, today is our dating anniversary! We’ve been together for 7 years and that’s what we tell people when they ask. Unless they ask how long we’ve been married, then we say married for 1.5 years. We’ve been together too many years to just start over again, so we didn’t wipe the slate clean. 🙂
Post # 7
I usually say the same…we’ve been together for 5 1/2 years and married for 2 1/2 of them!
Post # 8
I am like the others… We have been together x number of years and married x number of years.
Post # 9
Concurred on the dating for X years, but married X years. 🙂
Post # 10
I don’t think the slate gets wiped clean. That foundation of 9 years (for us it will be 7 years) is why we got married, I’m proud of how long we’ve been together. So I’ll specify how long we’ve been together overall and that we’ve been married for however long.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
i concur as well! no way would i want to discount the six years we spent together beforehand! 🙂
@lillindy – happy dateiversary!
Post # 12
Thanks ladies!!! I was thinking the same way because you put in sooo much in your relationship to get to the point of marraige and was a little urked when people were telling my friend who had been dating for 5 years that the slate is wiped clean.
Post # 13
No shouldn’t wipe the slate clean.
Post # 14
It doesn’t wipe the slate clean, but this issue will probably diminish in importance the longer you’ve been married. My parents dated 5 or 6 years before marrying, but they don’t mention that anymore when people ask about their relationship. They just say they’ve been married 27 years. Maybe it stops being important around the time you’ve been married longer than the time you dated.
Post # 15
I agree with marjojo. Once you’ve been married longer than you dated can just use the wedding anniversary as the mark.