- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So I am an atheist and so is my fiance. We both have had too much higher education in the sciences to think otherwise. My mother is a very religious Seventh-day Adventist. She already knew that we would not be married in an actual church. But, she REALLY wants to know who is marrying us. I’m not sure why she is so concerned about this. (Shouldn’t I be more concered with who I am marrying and not who is conducting the ceremony?) She keeps offering herself as the officiant. There is no way that is going to happen – we want no mentions of god or the bible or the like.
So, when she asked again, I mentioned that we might have a Justice of the Peace perform the ceremony. She freaked out. I don’t know what she thinks a Justice is. I thought they were pretty common. My fiance’s brother got married by one last year. To be honest, I don’t even care if the person is a real Justice or not. Just as long as he/she can legally marry us and it is a nice ceremony.
She seems to think that a Justice doesn’t make the marriage ‘meaningful.’ And that if I have someone else do it (like a pastor) I will somehow have a better marriage. That because we want a Justice – and I’m speculating here – that because it is not ‘under God,’ we are not marrying for the right reasons????
So…what do you think?