Jut accept the date change or fight it?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What would you do?
    Fight it? Please Explain? : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Accept it? Please explain? : (15 votes)
    94 %
    Other, please explain? : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    15011 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’ve been there. We also had to change our date due to a situation that was out of our control. I was feeling similarly to you. It totally SUCKS! I knew I had to suck it up but inside I was a mess. (( hugs ))

    Post # 4
    10834 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @laura.batty: I think accept it as you don’t want to be planning constantly worrying about money all the time.

    Post # 7
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @laura.batty:  Give yourself some peace of mind and just let things happen the way they are supposed to. For all you know, you could end up having a better wedding than the one you are trying to have. You get to marry your love and that’s all that matters. Vendors, photographers, etc can all be replaced and rearranged. It’s not worth the stress trying to force things to happen.

    Post # 8
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2014


    I had to change my wedding date once also.

    FI and I were planning on an autumn wedding, but FSIL (after months and months of changing her dates and delaying) decided to book her venue for an October date.  She and FILs then threw a huge fit, saying that we “cannot have two weddings in one year because it is bad luck”, let alone having two weddings in same season (we were opting to get married in November after hearing about FSIL’s wedding date).

    We were both very upset. We had many other factors contributing to our ill feeling (FILs were just simply against our marriage as whole), but we were very upset about having to choose between a different season and having a lot longer engagement than we wanted (we got engaged in March and didn’t want to be engaged for more than a year).


    We ended up choosing a January date. Initially, FI just wanted to choose a November date and just plow through (he was already fed up with his family by then and didn’t care), but in the end, we decided to be married in a different year, just to respect the FILs’ “bad luck” superstitiion (although I’m sure they meant after Chinese New Year when they said “different year”….oh well).

    Everything I had imagined/thought of went out the window – and I had to plan a winter wedding instead. And after all that drama, FSIL didn’t get married after all, and FILs are still not coming to our wedding….


    But quite honestly, i still enjoyed the planning process quite a lot, and it was a lot of fun.  Plus, winter wedding gave us more the reason to have a smaller, cozy, fireplace wedding – so that was a huge thumbs up. It’ll definitely be cold when we have to be outside for our wedding portraits…but that’s ok, because we’ll be off to Bahamas right after the wedding for our honeymoon!


    So the conclusion is, it definitely is quite upsetting, frusrating, and irritating to have to change your wedding date for reasons you cannot control/you cannot embrace, but the important part is the procedure and the joy that comes from it, not the date itself.

    If you need to vent about it, do it on a board like this – but don’t let the ill feeling keep you from enjoying your wedding planning. 🙂


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