Post # 1
There’s another post floating around about how many guests should be invited to the bridal shower. Well, I just assumed that any females on the guest list would be invited. So, I’m ending up with a guest list of about 95 people. Some are out of state and I know will not come, but I feel rude not inviting them.
What is everyone’s take on this? Should the shower be more exclusive? There is no way in he** I can have my girls invite less than 50 people, that just is completely impossible given how huge FI’s family is.
Now I’m nervous- I mean, I have about 35 females on my mother’s side of the family, and that are all being invited!
Am I missing some sort of ettiquete rule?
Post # 3
That seems a little overboard though I do understand the family thing. I don’t live in the same state as my parents (whose friends are throwing the shower) so we’re inviting all the family women, a handful of my mom’s closest friends and the friends that live in that city. All told that’s not very many because my family isn’t as big as yours. 🙂 All my friends who live where I live now won’t be invited. I almost feel wrong-er (yes I know that’s not a word!) inviting them than not. I don’t want them to feel in any way obligated to fly across the country to give me a present. Also, I don’t want to impose on the women that are throwing the shower by inviting too many people.
That probably doesn’t help, but I thought I’d write what I’m doing. Good luck!
Post # 4
That seems large, but I dont know I Think itdepends on the situation and the person. My shower guest lis tis 29 invited and probably 20-25 will come. That even seems like a lot of people to me! But I get anxious with large groups of people!
Post # 5
If that’s the case,you may have to have 2 seperate showers…. one for your side and one for his. As far as who will be giving you them if you do it that way? I guess it will have to be discussed among the families. I wouldn’t expect your bridal party to host more than one of them, and paying for one large party is also a pretty big expense.
Just to give you an idea of costs, ours today was $750. just for lunch (that included 20% gratuity & tax for 30) , and then there was the cake, favors,candles, centerpieces, beverages and gifts. We had it in a private room in a restaurant,but even having a house shower expenses can add up. Renting tables,chairs, buying /renting dishes,cups,flatware,napkins,decorations,food,drinks,linens….hosting showers are expensive.
Granted,some people may not come,so it may end up being smaller than expected.
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. My guestlist is around the same number as yours, and I preferred not having to ask people to throw more than one shower (and have my bridal party front the costs for these parties).
I don’t know 100% what’s going on with mine, but I do know it’s in a party room at a condo, and everyone involved is chipping in to make food, etc.
My family is pretty big and there was no way I could cut out most of the people on the list.
Post # 7
I am right there with you! My shower list is 70+ my FI family is very large and if you want to invite certin people u have to invite like 5 other people otherwise it is rude. i am hoping that only 5oish will show cause i think these #s are crazy. my moh has been very good about the whole thing and is even looking forward to it. She has good back up with my other girls too. I thought about having 2 but part of the point is to have both sides of family get together. This is not every female guest invited to the wedding. There is no reason ti invite everyone…you can cut it down to closest friends and family.