Keep ex's name or take new name, wait, there's more…

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: Change my name to something that rhymes with my first name?
    Yes. New hubby will want me to take his name, it's a tradition after all. : (112 votes)
    67 %
    Yes, but change my first name. Lol! Hey, anything's possible. : (2 votes)
    1 %
    No. It's too dorky to have my first name ryhme with my last name. : (25 votes)
    15 %
    Other : (29 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    284 posts
    Helper bee

    My friend just married a man whose last name rhymes with her first. She got laughs, but she’s confident about it and pulls it off 🙂 I think it’s less about having stars in your eyes and more about establishing a unified front as a family and “switching loyalties”, if you will. You’re becoming a part of him – own it! 🙂 I know my opinion isn’t everyone’s opinion, but since you asked what *I* would do, there’s my two cents!

    Post # 4
    3635 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think the only good reason to keep an ex-husband’s name is if you have kids who have his name.  Otherwise go back to your maiden or take your new husband’s.  Seems like too often a reminder that you once belonged to someone else. 

    Post # 5
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t think my husband would have really appreciated me keeping my ex husband’s last name, unless we had kids and it was easier that way. 

    Not that I have an EH

    Post # 6
    356 posts
    Helper bee

    @RedHeadKel:  Why dont you just change your last name back to your maiden name? That way it still sounds good with your first name, but you’re not married to someone and still have your ex’s last name?

    Post # 7
    2787 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I am all about girls doing what ever they want with their last name but I don’t think I could keep an ex’s name while marrying someone new.  Sorry to Shakespear, but there is a lot in a name, and that just seems to carry some baggage (failed marriage)

    At the time of the wedding, you can change your name to anything.  My FI’s aunt changed her name to her mother’s maiden name.  I’m tempted to change mine to an old family name before our name got Americanized.  You don’t have to take your new husband’s name.

    Post # 8
    14 posts

    I won’t be keeping my ex-hubby’s last name, though my FI’s last name doesn’t rhyme with my first, either… I’d go with the both taking a hyphenated last name, exampe, Bill and Sally Jones-Nally.


    Post # 9
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I think you should keep it! It’s YOUR name now too. Plus it’s pretty awesome!

    Post # 10
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Personally, I’d find it a bit odd keeping an ex’s last name.

    I knew a girl who’s husband’s last name was Amy… and her first name? Amy!
    It was important for her to take on her husband’s name though, so she’s now Amy Amy!

    Post # 11
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    There are a lot of people in my family (with and without kids) who kept their married name after divorce, so I wouldn’t bat an eye at you keeping your old name (especially if you’re on good terms with ex). I also think Love is a cool last name!

    I can sort of relate to the rhyming name thing. I’m now a Katherine Ka**en and it still throws me off, like 9 months after the name change. To be honest, I’d have trouble making the decision to change if it was an outright rhyme.

    Are you willing to share the rhyming names? Is it outrageous like Kimberly Bimberly, or simple like Jane Lane? lol

    Post # 12
    559 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    just use your maiden name…

    Post # 13
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I voted “other.”  What if you became FirstName Love-FHLastName?

    Post # 14
    2111 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @RedHeadKel:  Why not just change it back to your maiden name? Unless you have kids with the ex, I don’t see why you’d keep his name after getting remarried. If you don’t want to rhyme, at least go back to your maiden name.

    Post # 15
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I would maybe change your name to your maiden name. I can understand not wanting to take your new future husband’s last name, as I’m in a similar situation. My first and last name will rhyme when FI and I get married and it is making me unsure as to whether or not I want to take his name.  Every time I mention it to someone or they figure it out, they laugh or say there is no way they would take a last name that rhymed with their first. Sorry I’m not much help!

    Post # 16
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Julia Gulia!!

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