I totally get why you’re struggling with this, especially since you’re younger and probably need — and even want — a lot of other things more than you actually NEED or even want another set of china
I have my grandmother’s china, too — in fact, it was a set of china my dad (who was in Korea in the military) had chosen for my mother while they were engaged. He also bought a set for my grandmother, but in a different pattern, and my mother apparently loved the set my dad chose for his mother, so my grandmother not only gave that set to my mother, but also never even took the other pattern — the one originally intended for my mom — out of the boxes. She kept it for my dad’s future daughter that he may one day have. Well, that turned out to be me! What’s amazing is that the pattern he chose, and the colors he chose just could not be any more perfect for my taste and the color scheme of my home. I adore it! I’ve only used it ONE TIME thus far for a dinner party about 10 years ago. However, I take great pleasure in displaying it on my dining room table at different times throughout the year (I simply make up my table as if I were having a dinner party, and I really enjoy looking at it!)
Not only do I have that china, but I also had years ago purchased two other beautiful sets of more casual, dishwasher-safe china myself (one I love but is getting very beat up now that I’m married to Darling Husband and have stepchildren and we use these dishes every day, and another pattern that I still think is pretty but now kind of think is to “fussy” for my taste, so I rarely ever use those.)
However, when I became engaged to Darling Husband, because I was a first-time bride, even though I was in my mid 40s and already had all of these dishes, I still chose to register for my own china pattern with Darling Husband. What I did was choose a very classic, elegant, plain pattern with a silver rim, since all of my other china/dishes have very definitive patterns and colors. I’ve only ever used THIS china twice. However, it’s perfect for the holidays, because it doesn’t have flowers or colors on it. It will be great for Thanksgiving dinners and Christmas for the rest of our lives.
So, having said all of that, if you love the Vera Wang for its beauty, and you have any desire to keep it, then keep it and enjoy it, even if you end up just displaying it in a china cabinet or on your table more than you actually use it. (Also, another advantage of having two sets of china — if you have a china cabinet instead of a sideboard — is that you can still display one complete, gorgeous set of china in your china cabinet even while you’re eating off of the other set! 🙂
ETA: One more consideration. At SOME point, your china pattern will be discontinued, and someone, somewhere, will be looking to purchase the pieces. If you decide years from now that you aren’t happy with your decision to keep them, you could always try to sell them on eBay or to Replacements.com. I actually recently purchased 12 placesettings of a discontinued dishwasher-safe pattern from sellers on eBay and Replacements.com to eventually replace my everyday china that is getting so beat up from our everyday use. I had always loved this other pattern, but I chose the one I have now instead. Since they were discontinued years ago, but the colors are almost identical to the pattern I have, and the colors and pattern go perfectly with my decor, I decided to buy them for future use while I could still find them. 🙂