Post # 1
I am not yet engaged (though it will be within the next year I am sure), but I am finding myself in a dilemma! My boyfriend and I have been together for three and a half years and we are very much in love. I am in graduate school so I am super busy and I live a bit farther away from him now. When I am in school, we don’t have much time together and we never have any money!
We truly enjoy spending time together, except now I find us just doing the same things over and over again. There does seem to be a lack of romance sometimes. The worst part is that sometimes I don’t feel like doing the things I used to for him.
So here I am looking for any tips on how to keep the relationship fresh and exciting while we wait to be married. (Obviously from a Christian standpoint…I was afraid posting this on another board for fear of receiving some sort of sex advice LOL). What did you do to keep romance alive before you were married?
Post # 3
I am very poor and busy as well I know how you feel… Not to mention I still live at home and I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters and 2 neices and one nephew, my house is always full… we never have alone time… Mike is very understanding, he knows I love my family and my busy life But I cant help but think once were married and we dont have to try to do something everynight and can just snuggle on the couch watching a movie together and fall asleep in each others arms,…. that it will be better…?
Post # 4
I am also in grad school, so I completely understand the stress and business you’re going through! My FI and I are in a long distance relationship. When I’m at school, we’re about 3 hours away from each other. It’s not too bad though because we make it a point to see each other every weekend. I realize that might not be a possibility for you. Another thing we like to do is send each other an email every day. We’ve been doing that for over 2 years now. He always goes to bed before me since he has to get up at 5 for work, so I send him a “good morning” email before I go to bed. After he gets up, he reads my email and send me a “good morning” email. I really like it because it keeps us in touch. Maybe you could start sending him random emails and wait to see if he replies! We love talking about how much we can’t wait to be married and how much we love each other. They’re pretty much daily love letters. It’s fast, free, and connects us even when we’re apart!
Post # 5
Thanks for the tips guys! I love the e-mail idea. We used to send them to each other all the time…it’s another one of those things that we sort of stopped doing!
Post # 6
Try to do one new thing together like every other week or once a month or something. It could be something small like doing to a new place for dessert or dinner, or playing a new board game, cooking a different meal together. Experiencing new things together helps keep things fresh. I don’t know where you live, but you could search for some free things in your city, festivals or something.
Post # 7
I went to a seminar hosted by Pam Farrell! I loved her! =]
She has a great book I read called Men are Like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti! LOVED IT! So i can only imagine her other books are great!
Post # 8
I didn’t have a ton of money when we were dating either, plus we lived over an hour apart. We kept things fun and interesting by planning dates by who was visiting who. For example, if he came to visit me, I would plan the date. (I have some funny stories, like how mad I was when he wouldn’t let me plan the date when he came out to visit and ended up proposing!) The best date that I planned was going to a local bookstore and I read some of my favorite children’s books to him. One of my favorite dates was when I took him to an archade.
I think for Valentine’s day I ended up buying him “52 Great Cheap Dates.” Although he didn’t use it when we were dating, I broke it out now that we are married and had him choose a couple dates we could do together now that we are married!
Post # 9
I know how you feel- My FI is in grad school and I do school & work 65+ hours a week. We only see eachother like 2-3x a week 🙁
Yesterday we went apple picking and then baked some pies (one for him to take home and eat <3)
It was so much fun doing this rather than doing the usual and seeing a movie.
Post # 10
@RachelD: That book sounds awesome! We are getting married in a month and we will definitely be broke as heck! I think I’ll order it soon!!
Post # 11
Also you might want to check out websites like Groupon or LivingSocial to get deals on services, resturants, and other events. This might help off set the cost of going out to dinner.