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Other - probably not having kids. But if we do, and they come out of me, they get my last name. This is really hard for a lot of guys to handle, I think... my partner is ok with it because he realizes the chances of us having kids anyway are pretty slim (he may also not think I'll follow through on this). My argument is that when he can figure out how to gestate and give birth, he can name them whatever he wants.
If we have kids they'll have his name. I would MAYBE consider giving the kids my last name as their middle... but prob not. it'd be a weird middle name :)
My sister in law gave her daughter her maiden name as a middle name. I took my husband's name, so our kids will have his last name.
I took my husband's last name on the condition that our children will have my maiden name as a middle name. It's very Italian so it should sound cool with the right first name.
I voted give them mine but not sure that's accurate. I think we'll try to split it but it will depend on gender a little bit since my name works much better for a girl. Ideally we'd have one of each! Though really who knows what we are going to do in several years time? All I know it will definitely not just be his.
I'm not keeping or passing on my name to my children. It's a difficult name to pronounce and I'm really not close to my dad so don't really want to pass on his name to my children.
my middle name is my mom's maiden name, so i'm envisioning giving my kids either my maiden name or my mom's maiden name as a middle name. ie, i will have 4 names: first-name mom's-maiden my-maiden fi-last, and if i have 2 kids one will be first my-maiden fi-last, and the other will be first mom's-maiden fi-last
So I think were going to legally make their names, "NewFirstName NewMiddleName MyMaidenName HisLastName", but for simplicity's sake, they'll just go by "NewFirstName HisLastName" in school, etc.
I am going to change my name and we will pass that name on to our children. It is important to me their first and middle names are connected to my family (or at least one of them) and that works for me
FI has a much prettier last name than I do, so we'll probably give the kids his name. If his name weren't so much better than mine, I think I would split it and give the girls mine and the boys his.
We're doing both - we're making them together, so we feel they should be named together. :) Mylast Hislast unite! :)
It's tradition in my family to use the maiden name as one of the kid's middle names...so, it's a small way of passing my name on.
I plan on keeping my name, giving my first child my maiden name as a first name, and any subsequent children (if there are any; we're leaning towards one) will have my maiden name as a middle name. My last name is used for both male and female first names, so it won't be weird either way, and that way they still get my name. :) I was called by my last name most of my life since my first name is so common, so I think that's another reason why I like it as a first name. The child(ren) will have my hubby's last name.
His name. Part of the reason I'm changing mine is so that we can all have the same name.
I'm planning on just taking his last name. It's important to him and my last name is just TOO long to even think about hypenating it. If we end up having children, I know it would be personally important for each of us to be tied to the child by name.
I actually have four names right now: Two middle names with the second name being my mother's maiden name. I'd consider doing the same for my children, but probably not.
If we have kids, they're going to have both our last names since we'll both be the Smith Johnsons after we get married. We're lucky that we're both on the same page about combining our names.
What if your kids had your name as a middle, his name as a last, since you said he doesn't seem to like it the other way around? If it is important to you to pass on your name, hopefully he will understand that eventually. Good luck.
My fiance offered that our kids could have my last name no problem. Now I'm working on getting him to take my last name...
Thanks for all the input! I should clarify, though... I'm assuming (although correct me if I'm wrong) that those of you who are taking your FI's name are also going to give his name to your children. My question was directed more toward the others who are keeping their names when they get married. Sorry I wasn't more clear!
@gcwest: good luck! C was originally open to the idea of changing his name, but then changed his mind instead. :( I'm going to be pretty stubborn about the kids, though! :)
I wish your FI and cbee's could talk to mine! sigh....
I'm actually changing my name, but I have heard that in some places when people have kids, they are automatically momname-dadname. Then when 2 kids get married, the boy drops momname, and the girl drops dadname and their subsequent children become: kid momname(which was her mom's name)-dadname(which was his dad's name).
I don't really know if it is true, but I like how all names get used.
i'm taking his last name and moving y last name to my middle name. we've already decided that when we have kids, we'll give them my maiden for their middle and his (our) last for their last.
btw - we're date and state twins! it's coming up soon! hope we have great weather!
My last name can't be moved into a middle name, etc. I am keeping my last name but I am still on the fence about our children having my last name or his. We will cross that bridge when we come to it.
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So, one of (if not THE) reasons I've always wanted to keep my name was to pass it on to my kids. Unfortunate, C won't take my name. :( Neither of us want our future kids to have hyphenated names. I proposed the idea of giving our future kids his name as their middle name and my last name as their last name, but he doesn't seem very open to the idea.
What are you guys doing, and why?