(Closed) Keeping away the debby downers???

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmm. I would give your mother a break here. She is probably stressed because of the very real possibility that your grandfather has cancer again. I would be devastated if I were in your position so I’m not quite understanding how this is a “debbie downer” situation so much as an actual, real-life crisis situation.

The fact that it is coming before your wedding is horrible timing, yes, but life happens when it happens. I think you should probably cut your mom some slack in regard to snappy comments she may be making, maybe even show some sympathy despite the fact that it may drag down your good mood. Sometimes bad things happen and they just overtake the good things. It sucks, but life sucks sometimes and we just have to deal with things as they come.

I wish your grandfather the best of health and hope that the docs can keep the cancer at bay.

Post # 5
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well, if they don’t know for sure the grandfather is sick yet it is being a bit pessimistic/Debbie Downer to say that he is very sick and isn’t going to make it.  But still, I’m sure it is a stressful situation for your mother and try to cut her some slack.

Some people jsut like to point out the negative, and I guess your mother is one of them.  She shouldn’t have said that she can’t wait until the wedding is over.  I’m recently engaged, but can really empathize with your mother issues.

Post # 6
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

No one is being a downer about my wedding, but I’ve found myself avoiding BM C who is sooo depressed about being single and constantly crying/pity partying. Actually I’m lying I don’t avoid her, we talk all the time. But it does bother me that she is so down in the dumps 100% of the time, she has no filter.

Post # 7
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406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry your Mom’s being like that.  Keep your chin up and don’t let anyone steal your joy.

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