Post # 1
I am feeling down about my friends tonight. I am filling out my save the dates and I am realizing I have about two friends I am sending them to.
I dont want to send them to my other ones because they have been so flaky on me lately, I honestly dont know if I will still be friends with them come May. I realized the only time we hang out anymore is if I set up and organize a night out. But lately even when I do that they all say they are in and can’t wait. They even contribute planning. Then about an hour before, one by one, they flake out on me with a lame excuse.
I feel like something is wrong with me that no one wants to hang out with me anymore. I havent changed anything about myself and I am trying to understand what I am doing wrong. I guess I am just feeling really down tonight and it’s not like I have any friends to talk to about this.
Can anyone offer me any advice on mantaining friendships as we get older or how to meet new people? I dont think I am going to keep organizing any events with these girls. It makes me so sad because we have all been really good friends since highschool.
Post # 3
I think it’s natural for some friendships to fade out as time goes on. Could you scale back your wedding plans and just have best friends and immediate family present? No sense paying a lot of $$ for people you don’t really want to attend your wedding… especially if you think they’ll flake out.
Most people have many acquaintances, and few true friends.
Post # 4
@Jennybenny16: I made my best friends in college and graduate school. I only have one friend from high school. I can’t imagine maintaining friendships from that time in my life…I’ve changed so much. Do you have any friends from college? Or from work? I think people just grow up and change, and since we don’t actively work to maintain our friendships from high school (as we might with a significant other) it’s much more difficult.
Post # 5
@Jennybenny16: Awe *hugs* I know how you feel! But I agree with the PP, relationships fade and come and go. Thats a lesson i have learned this past year or so as well. It has been super hard for me…and I too had feelings about whether or not it was “me” but I learned that people change, I changed, and thats okay! In terms of advice…I would say stay true to you 🙂 like the PP also mentioned, it really is normal to have multiple aquaintances/friends with a few true friends so I would try not to feel too hurt.