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Keeping it in perspective

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    Ms. Palmetto    July 3, 2010   Charleston, South Carolina

    I'm not really sure where to post this, it's a bit of an emotioal post, which is not usually me, so I apologize in advance. These are just my thoughts and feelings as they come tumbling out, and I need to share with someone:

     I am a nurse, I take care of people who have cancer- many of whom are able to beat their illness and go on to lead full, happy lives. I had the opportunity to care for a lady recently, for who this was unfortunately not the case. Her daughter was engaged, and as her illness began to take a greater hold on her she made it clear that her wish was to see her daughter get married. She was too unstable to leave the hospital, and could no longer walk by her own strength but with the help of the awesome nurses I work with they were able to not only coordinate her being present for her daughters' vows, but also the entire wedding and reception. It was a garden wedding in the meditation garden at the hospital. There was a string quartet, a soloist, a cake, decorations, flowers, the whole she-bang. People who did not know the bride and groom donated their time, goods, efforts and love. I am just in awe of human decency today. My spirit feels renewed and refreshed by what has taken place. Which I guess is a good thing because I am also sad that this newlywed couple will not get to share babies and birthdays with my patient. After having experienced something so intimate, I have decided that my mantra from here on out will be "Do not let the details become greater than the purpose." This bride didn't agonize over color schemes or napkin treatments. She experienced her wedding with all of her soul, and that's what I want. I do not mean this as a judgement or reflection of anyone but myself. As I said before I have this torrent of emotion that I need to release and share with someone, and I thank you for letting me do just that.

    I wonder if anyone else has had an epiphany moment, or has found a mantra/focus/meditation that has helped center them?

     
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    Her wedding sounds like it was lovely :)

    Sometimes we all get caught up in something, whatever it may be, and need those types of moments to put it into perspective

     
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    Sep_Queen    September 4, 2010  

    Beautiful! thank you for sharing...

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    that is really touching...thank you so much for sharing that! 

    I teared up...but in a good way.

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    I'm glad you shared this- sometimes its so easy to get wrapped up in it all!

     
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    Kare7213    May 22, 2010   Dewitt, MI

    What a blessed experience! I agree though, myself included get very caught up in the details and forget even WHY we are getting married. Its great to have stories like this on here sometimes cause even the most humble bride can get lost in the planning. Thanks!

     
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    kierbear24    June 23, 2012   Ontario

    Wow that was such a touching story, it actually brought tears to my eyes. It's such an important thing to share though, remembering why you are getting married in the first place and just being happy that people can be there to celebrate with you. Thanks for sharing!

     
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    Thank you for sharing. Things like this also make me more aware of my family and remind me not to take them for granted.

     
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    andreaandchinelo    09/04/2009   dc

    beautiful story...I'm glad you shared your/her's/her mother's moment with us.

     
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    Ms. Palmetto    July 3, 2010   Charleston, South Carolina

    Thanks ladies, It really has allowed me to look at the whole wedding planning process with fresh eyes. (albeit a little tear-y!)

     
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    trugem    January 2011  

    That is so true. I was thinking earlier today and I realized that I often over look my blessings and focus on the negative. I was letting small things bother me and overshadow the good in my life.

    Thanks for sharing.

     
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    waitingbee    September 4, 2010   California

    @ms.palmetto I am so happy to have another oncology nurse on the bee. I too am an RN who daily cares for patients who are newly diagnosed, receiving chemotherapy or spending their last days with us. Everynight I thank god for the amazing blessing of getting to walk away from the hospital and enjoy my happy, healthy life and family. Thank you for reminding us that our weddings are only a means to get to our marriages. You bees continue to be such an amazing source of spirit renewal.

     
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    That is soooo touching! I am starting to feel more and more this way... I couldn't care less about wedding stuff right now. So glad her mom got to see her there.

    I'm from charleston, too, btw! So awesome that people from Chs did that for her... what a great place and what a great story.

     

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