Post # 1
We’re getting married in November and I’m really stuck with deciding what to do with my last name. Of course, he really wants me to take his and thinks it’s ‘weird’ if i don’t, but I love my name. I thought about keeping my last name professionally and using his socially. We’re both the last ones in our family with our last name. That’s part of the reason I really want to keep mine. The kids of course would take his last name. I’m almost 23, quite attached to it, and actually means a lot to me. Plus, I’m in a family business that uses our last name. At first I was going to hyphenate them, but I really don’t want a long name. Also, I’ve heard it to be quite the pain in the a** to change your name and $$$. What did you do? What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Post # 3
I was in your shoes. Liked my name and didn’t want to change it. i didn’t it, perfectly happy with the solution. my husband mentioned that he wanted me to change it, but he never mentioned it again and it is not an issue. if you want to keep it, go ahead
Post # 4
My last name is now my husband’s, and my middle name is now my maiden name.
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I want to have the same surname as our children. I’m making my maiden name my middle name, which is what my mom and both grandmas did.
Post # 6
@erinbacher: I work at my family’s business, changed it, had no problems there….money wise its not expensive or hard to change your name on all of your accounts, social security number and ID….
I think if you want to keep your name, keep it…if not, change it.
The only thing that could get complicated is kids, and the odd chance that if you’re in a bind, medically, its kind of hard to prove your married to the staff…with privacy laws being the way they are, staff errs on the side of caution and that makes for a difficult climb in an already bad situation…because if your ID says a different name…how do they know?
Post # 7
@Nona99: That’s true. I didn’t think of situations like that for our kids. Thank you for mentioning that.
Post # 8
@erinbacher: I will be taking my FI’s last name and I cannot wait. I have zero attachment to my maiden name. I think you should do what makes you comfortable.
Post # 9
I won’t be changing my last name, mostly because my FI has a very difficult to pronounce last name, plus he asked me NOT to take his last name. I’ll go by it socially but for work, it will be much easier. I understand it will make it more difficult for when we have kids that have his last name, but it just means that I will have to be prepared with making sure I have a copy of the marriage certificate.
You have to do what is best for you, but I totally understand where you are coming from! 🙂