Keeping maiden name and using husband's for social?

posted 3 years ago in Names
  • poll: What did/will you do with your last name?
    I kept mine. : (11 votes)
    42 %
    I took my spouse's. : (11 votes)
    42 %
    I hyphenated them. : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Other - I'll explain below. : (3 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    2546 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I was in your shoes. Liked my name and didn’t want to change it. i didn’t it, perfectly happy with the solution. my husband mentioned that he wanted me to change it, but he never mentioned it again and it is not an issue. if you want to keep it, go ahead

    Post # 4
    428 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My last name is now my husband’s, and my middle name is now my maiden name.


    Post # 5
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    I want to have the same surname as our children. I’m making my maiden name my middle name, which is what my mom and both grandmas did.

    Post # 6
    5909 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @erinbacher:  I work at my family’s business, changed it, had no problems there….money wise its not expensive or hard to change your name on all of your accounts, social security number and ID….

    I think if you want to keep your name, keep it…if not, change it.

    The only thing that could get complicated is kids, and the odd chance that if you’re in a bind, medically, its kind of hard to prove your married to the staff…with privacy laws being the way they are, staff errs on the side of caution and that makes for a difficult climb in an already bad situation…because if your ID says a different name…how do they know?

    Post # 8
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @erinbacher:  I will be taking my FI’s last name and I cannot wait. I have zero attachment to my maiden name. I think you should do what makes you comfortable.

    Post # 9
    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I won’t be changing my last name, mostly because my FI has a very difficult to pronounce last name, plus he asked me NOT to take his last name. I’ll go by it socially but for work, it will be much easier. I understand it will make it more difficult for when we have kids that have his last name, but it just means that I will have to be prepared with making sure I have a copy of the marriage certificate. 

    You have to do what is best for you, but I totally understand where you are coming from! 🙂

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