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Keeping Myself Sane While FI Works Late

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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Hi, bees. I need some advice on keeping myself busy this week. My fiance is working really late every night this week. He's in music education and teaches a HS band that has long rehearsal days all week, so he won't be getting home till between 9:30 and 10:00 PM.

    It's only Monday morning, and I'm already going crazy thinking about how little I'm going to get to see him over the next several days.

    Now, FI and I do not live together, so it's not like I'll be at our place alone, but I will be at my place alone and I don't want to just sit around and wait for him each night.

    Does anyone have any tips on how/what to do in the evenings this week so I don't drive myself crazy? I feel like if I can be productive or give myself a project of some sort, I won't be looking at the clock every 10 minutes.

    Thanks bees! :)

     

     
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    egb    January 2010  

    Hey I'm in the same boat - DH has been in Europe for 10 days now, and I only get to see him next Sunday when I join him there...

    To keep myself busy, I started to workout more (started P90x); I rented tons of movies that he wouldn't be thrilled to watch with me (he's a sweetheart and he would watch them anyway, but it's cool to watch them alone too); I've made plans with friends all week long and I'm going shopping.

    I also spend more time on WB... :)

     
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    baldor1    May 7, 2012   Southern California

    My FI and I live together and to be completely honest, I cherish the times I have the house all to myself. It's the only time I get to do girlie stuff out in the open like plucking, waxing, etc. I know you don't live with him so you probably get to do that stuff at your place anyway, so I would use this time to watch all the girlie flicks he doesn't care to see. For me they are DVD marathons of Sex and the City. Everytime he is on a fishing trip, I spend the weekend with Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha. Or do cocktails with my girlfriends and stay out extra long because I don't have to cook dinner :)

    I would also use the time for some of your wedding DIY projects. There will be less distraction.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @egb: Ooh yes, you definitely know the feeling. Sounds like you have a great plan to stay busy! And good idea...I've been wanting to start the 30 Day Shred. FI and I have been running together so the 30DS is something I can do without him...

     

    @baldor1: Thanks for the great tips. You're right—I should enjoy my alone time. I am just getting antsy knowing it's only Monday AM. I'll definitely watch some girly movies and do some wedding things. Thanks!

     
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    blondeeebuckeye    February 2011   Austin, TX

    @Gemstone: what about going out with friends a lot this week? when my fiance is out of town or has to work a lot, i end up with like, 2 happy hours and a dinner in a week :) it gets me out of the house and keeps me busy!

     
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    BunnyBrideToBe    December 3, 2011   Boston, MA

    My FI has been working late a couple nights a week and even though it's only 2-3 nights, it's hard!  We do live together and it's the difference between an evening in with him and an evening by myself.  Once a week, I'm getting used to it, and really enjoying some good books (um, and some fluffy books too) over dinner.  The other night I've started having dinner either with friends, family, or FI's parents who live in the area.  It's just too lonely otherwise, and it's hard to get myself to cook a nice dinner just for one.  I also do the Shred in the evenings when he's gone cause I look ridiculous doing it :-)

     
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    picturemeurs    February 2012  

    I think you should make a mini list of something fun you wanna try each day. How about trying some fun new recipes to try out on him this weekend.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @blondeeebuckeye: Yep, I'm trying to do some of that. I have a night out with some girlfriends planned on Wednesday!

    @BunnyBrideToBe: Haha, I feel like I look ridiculous doing the Shred, too. And I do have some books on my bookshelf waiting to be read. Thanks!

    @picturemeurs: Thank you, great idea! That would keep me busy and earn me extra brownie points for this weekend. :)

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    At the moment I'm not working so I'm in the house all day by myself until DH gets home from work, around 11PM at night. I do masses of house cleaning and watch a heck of a lot of movies. Definitely do some girly stuff, all I can say is, keep yourself busy and the hours will fly by.

     
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    maisymay    December 19, 2009   morgan hill, ca

    It's hard! My husband lives away from home 3 nights a week because his job is so far away from where we live, and on those nights, I watch lots of movies and get ready for the upcoming school year (teacher). 

    Good luck!

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @littlemissmoo: and @maisymay: Thank you so much for your insight and encouragement! Looks like it's going to be a girly week. :)

     
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    florence    August 11, 2012   Canada

    My SO has worked til 3 AM pretty much every Friday and Saturday night that we have been together - and that's 2.5 years!

    I usually just watch movies or, on the rare occasion, go out for drinks with my friends.  At least this is only a week for you, and only til 10 at the latest.  Just have fun and do all the things you would feel silly doing if he were around. :)

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @florence: Yeah, I know it's not that long. I mean, we were in LDR for 4 years, so I should be used to being away from him. It's just a Monday and my mind is on all things aside from work. Thanks. :)

     
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    msrdsx82    August 28, 2011   CT

    Perfect time to plan the wedding ;)

    Girlie movies w/ wine!

    Scrap book your pictures!

     

    My FI works two jobs so I am home alone quite often as well. Trust me, its nice to have "me" time even though you miss him!

     
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    pinesey    January 11, 2010   New York

    My husband is almost never around because he works 9 hours a day, commutes 3 hours, bikes for about 2 hours, sleeps for 8 hours, and takes 1/2 an hour to get ready and shower...so that leaves 1.5 hours in the day for any time for us to spend together...and that's pushing it, because there are always other small things he has to do. I work from home, so other than the 9 hours that I'm working, I'm always entertaining myself. If I'm home alone, I watch lots of TV, take my dog for walks, do laundry, go grocery shopping, sleep, and eat. I could say that I exercise, too, but it wouldn't be true.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    Love the ideas! And glad I'm not alone on this.

    He's working late three nights a week now. *sigh*

     

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