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As you can see...I am really on this baby kick now. Even though I am not pregnant or TTC yet, I want to explore all of my options. I have a new question stemmed from TheFutureMcBride's response to another one of my threads.
Are you keeping the sex of the baby a secret or do you want to know? Why or why not?
I found out the sex of my first baby, so next time I would like to see how I handle not knowing =) I think it would be exiting but my OH says he is going to want to know again...
I'm not pregnant, but when I do become pregnant, I want it to be kept a surprise until the baby is born!! You have so little good surprises left in life as you get older, and this is one of the best ones!!
My husband and I REALLY wanted to find out! I am a big planner so it was key for me to know. I think it is pretty cool when people wait for the suprise but I couldn't do that :) We told everyone that it's a girl...makes showers/etc easier but I know some couples who save that part as a suprise for everyone else.
For our next baby? I love the idea of having the ultrasound tech putting the pictures/sex into an envelope and then going on a special date night/weekend and opening it together!!
i wish could wait to find out but i just know, knowing me, there is no way i could wait!! i am envious of those who do!
Before I got pregnant, I always said that I would not want to find out the sex, no matter what. Now that I'm pregnant, as time goes on, I'm considering finding out! I flip flop back and forth all the time. I really like the idea of keeping the surprise until the birth. Also, if we stock up on gender neutral things now, we'll be able to use them for our other future children. But, I do kind of feel like knowing the sex of the baby while it's in my belly will make me feel closer to it and maybe enhance our bonding. Is that crazy? Does anyone else have this feeling or have heard about this? Also, I don't really love a lot of the gender neutral nursery items/themes out there, so I'd like to know the sex for this reason too. Who knows what we'll decide!
I wouldn't want to tell everyone else, even though I would want to know. Mostly for selfish reasons. I like things that are yellow and green, for either a boy or girl. Once everyone finds out the sex my family would only give either pink or blue gifts. It's just what they do. Once the baby is born my family still gives gifts and I know it would be all in pink or blue, so to get a better mix of colors in clothes and everything I wouldn't tell.
That sounds so strange, but I really wouldn't 
@cyndistar3: What is OH?
@Sulli301: I am the same way, so I m not sure I can go without knowing. The date idea is cute, but I am so not sure if I could make it out of the place without them pointing out the parts, etc
@andy113: and@Ryansgirl: It might really drive me crazy to wait until the birth!
@sarahcisme: I understand what you mean about maybe bonding better if you know. You can pick names earlier then too....well, definite names and start calling the baby that.
When we get pregnant I really want to know but DH doesn't so we'll see!
@Jerseygirl23: Mabye you can know, but not tell him. Would you be able to keep it a secret from him?
My sister never found out with either of her two kids and loved being surprised. My step sister found out with her two kids but didn't tell anyone else. We found out and told people because I'm a planner. I was all set for a girl and I needed to be able to wrap my head around having a boy if that was the case so I wasn't disappointed. As it turns out, this baby is a boy and I'm glad I found out early.
We didn't find out, and loved the surprise. We plan on waiting to find out the sex with our next kids, too!
@PrncssDva: haha, no way! I can't even make it to his birthday without telling him what his present is or giving it to him!
@Pelikila: Now you can be prepared. :)
@Mrs. Spring: Does it not drive you crazy?
@Jerseygirl23: LOL....
I'd have to find out - there is no way I could go for nine months without knowing what is inside of my and refering to him/her by name, etc.
We would definitely tell our families but I could see us keeping it a bit more hush-hush to other people. While I will want some blue/pink stuff - I won't want all blue/pink. Keeping it more hush-hush would probably result in more gender neutral stuff.
I'm planning on surprising myself--although I do share your general eagerness (I'm the kid that went hunting for Christmas presents)! I like the idea of a surprise, if I can stand it.
But I don't think it'd be necessary for me to know the sex to bond with the fetus (most of my friends--even the ones who know the sex--call the fetus by some other name, like "rocket" or "kicker" or whatever just because). And I'm also leery of gendering the child too much with all pink and/or all blue.
@Mrs.KMM: You sound like peacegrl099
@JennyW1: I won't "genderize" the baby with all one color things. I love color, so I'd spread it out anyway ;) Plus, I love monkeys, so the nursery theme would be that anyway. That is gender neutral
ETA:Crap!! I accidently deleted half of my post because I was editing it too much. Damn!!! Let me type it again...
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If there was an 'other' option, I would pick that.
The DH and I have decided to wait but we are not going to wait til I give birth.
What we are going to do is have a gender reveal at the baby shower. I want to be surprised and I also want my friends and family to be there when we find out too. Plus, I really want to have a gender cake with either pink or blue insides. Oh, and I've read about gender reveal parties where they ask the guests to wear blue or pink in support of what they think it will be.
Another reason is because my brother and my close friends told me that once you tell people the gender, they got bombarded with pink or blue baby stuff. Both my brother and friend, were getting sick of getting that color. My brother and his gf had to start buying gender neutral stuff to even out all the blue stuff they were getting. I like being able to get gender neutral clothes and if people want to wait to get my clothes until after the shower, I think that's fine.
I think it's a good plan. It's like a compromise between being surprised and knowing the gender. I will know the gender about 3 months before giving birth since I have to fly home for the shower and I heard doctors don't recommend you fly during your last trimester.
It wasn't hard for us not to know, but everyone's different. :) There was a point when I was 7 or 8 months along when my husband wanted to know, but I was like, "We're almost there! Why ruin the surprise now?"
I would have to know. I hate surprises and I am a nosy person. I dont like to not know things. It would drive me CRAZY.
Plus, I want to take my good, sweet time picking out a name.
@yrret107: That is a super cute idea!
@yrret107: I have never heard of a gender reveal party. Your idea sounds cool. I hope that you get to do it.
I added other for you.
@Mrs. Spring: I think I'd be tortured, lol
I will find out, by my SO doesn't want to know, so no one else will know...except maybe my mom just so she stops bugging me :)
We're not TTC or pregnant now, but DH and I have discussed this topic. We both would want to know the sex of the baby as soon as possible... and we have no problem telling the news to anyone who wants to know. ;)
When the time comes, we want to keep it a secret! We think it will be the best surprise to have the gender announced after birth.
No question, I absolutely have to know. Our friends wanted to find out but their kid was being stubborn at the one and only ultrasound that their OB/GYN would give them so they weren't able to find out. Everything that the baby got was gender neutral from clothes to the entire nursery. Well, gender neutral is much more boyish than it is girlish and sure enough she popped out a girl.
If that were me, I would have had to redo the entire nursery.
ETA: We'll absolutely also tell everyone sex. I don't know that we'll share the name but our family and friends will definitely know what the gender is.
We kept it a surprise with our first, but with any future children I think we will probably want to find out.
We didn't find out the gender of our first baby. We both agreed we wanted a surprise! We had a girl.
When I got pregnant the 2nd time, DH wanted to know and it was a boy! It was nice to know since we didn't have anything for a boy. Since we had a boy and a girl, we decided to be surprised with Baby #3 and Baby #4 and they were both boys.
I think I would like to know, but only because I am neurotic and hate surprises.
FI says he wants it to be a surprise.
We'll see what happens when the time actually comes!
I would DEFINITELY want to know! I think that gender specific items can be super cute (and it doesn't have to be all pink or all blue!) and I think it would be a lot more fun to design a nursery and plan items with my little one in mind.
Also, I don't think I would be able to stand knowing that the gender has been determined and I COULD find out, but didn't know. I would drive myself crazy!
Plus, to me, you are going to "find out" the sex of the baby, whether at 5 months or when the baby is born.
Kudos to those who can wait to find out, though!
There's definitely part of me that would love to wait and be surprised...but I think in practice I'll want to know as soon as possible.
I have never discussed this with my SO, but I would imagine that we would like to know a.s.a.p. :)
I voted keep it a suprise, which is what I plan to do when I get pregnant! It does make it a bit harder to decorate the nursery and such but there really aren't many great surprises in life and that is one of them... at least in my opinion.
Plus I think it's kinda sad when people annouce the sex and name of the baby before it's born. Then theres really no suprise or excitement when the babies born: it's like oh ok little john is here lol.
My fiance and I already have a daughter. We found out through ultrasound with her. When we decide to have another I want to find out through ultrasound. Its a surprise either way so why not find out sooner than later. In my opinion neutral stuff isnt that cute. lol. Plus, I started running a fever and my pain medicine didnt work had to have it adjusted 3 times. After I had my baby I passed out. The last thing I can remember from my labor is pushing amd the pain. I dont remember seeing her or anything like that.
There seems to be more that want to know ASAP. Everyone has neat stories though.
I never wanted to know what I might be having - even before getting pregnant was a realistic possibility and DH is the same - neither of us wanted to know. We're halfway through our first pregnancy now and we found out in November that we're having identical twins so for a minute I thought it would be helpful to find out but got over that quickly - neither of us care if they're girls or boys and we figure everything will fall into place no matter what!
I think it would bother me knowing that the doctors and nurses know but I don't, hehe - that and I'm a crazy-anxious person! ;)
Not sure if I'd want to tell anyone other than family though... keep the surprise for friends.. maybe? :)
My husband would be fine not knowing, but I'm a big planner so we will know.
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