Post # 1
Last summer, I had my hairstylist take my dark brown hair to blonde! I LOVED it at first, but that beautiful, natural, neutral blonde only lasted a week or two. Then it turned this gross, trashy, brassy yellow. And it seems like every time I get it done, the same thing happens, even though she’s tried a couple of different things to make it less yellow. One time I ended up with bright orange roots for a week. That was also the week of my family wedding reception. It was awesome.
I’ve tried several different purple shampoos, and they help just a bit, but not nearly enough. I’ve even tried toning it myself, and the toner made my hair look great for, like, two days. Then it was back to brassy yellow.
Am I just doomed to always have gross yellow hair? Or is my colorist doing something wrong? She keeps telling me that my hair just “pulls a lot of red and gold,” and that’s why she can’t get it to a more neutral blonde. She’s really nice, so I’d feel super guilty going to someone else, but maintaining blonde is very expensive. I don’t want to spend all this money and not get good results.
I have an appointment next week, and I’m getting so discouraged that I’m ready to just tell her that I want to go back to brown. But the problem is, I love being a blonde! Any bees who know hair have any advice?
Post # 3
The first picture is of my hair shortly after getting it done. The second picture is more recent. I know the lighting is different, but I promise it’s just as yellow as it looks.
Post # 4
You might want to try another stylist. I’ve also been a blonde for years now and I know different stylists/salons have different techniques or methods. I was not happy with my color one time and I asked another blonde friend for a stylist recommendation. I went to her stylist and she suggested some lowlights and my hair has looked so much better since!
I love being a blonde, so I can relate–but there is definitely a lot of upkeep! I think I went to 3 stylists before I found one who got the color just right.
Post # 5
@MM423: Thanks for the response!
I always feel like I’m cheating on my hairstylist if I go to someone else. So if my hair is just always going to turn yellow no matter who does it, I want to stick with her since I like her a lot. But it sounds like you’ve got different results with different stylists, so maybe you’re right and it’s time to go with someone else. 🙁
Post # 6
I felt the same way about my facialist like you abt ur stylist. I REALLY, REALLY, REALLYYYYYYYYYYYYY liked one yrs ago and wouldn’t even dream of going anywhere else. [Un]fortunately I was forced to because she moved out of town.
So my search began. I went to a different one each time for a year. I FINALLY found one that I REALLY, REALLY, REALLYYYYYYYYYY like. She is, in fact, BETTER than the one I had.
Give yourself a chance. Try AT LEAST 3 others. If you don’t like anybody else, then come back to her. You have nothing to lose.
Post # 7
@Mrs. Honeybee: I agree with @Sasha2011. All stylists are different and have different training and skills, so if you like the blonde it can’t hurt to shop around! I used to feel guilty because I liked my stylist as a person, but not enough to pay $100+ and not love my color.
Post # 8
She needs to use toner! I would got to someone else. If you are paying a lot of money and are not happy with the service then you are in no way obligated to go back.
Post # 9
@roxy821: Well, she does use a toner. And I’ve toned it myself. The problem is that the toners just don’t seem to want to stick. They’ll neutralize the blonde for a little while, but then it’s back to yellow very soon after. Like, sometimes literally the next day.
My hair always looks great when she first does it–it just gets more and more yellow after a week or two, and all the purple shampoos in the world aren’t enough to stave off the brassiness.
So I guess I’m confused. Even though it comes out a fairly neutral blonde (though still a bit on the golden blonde side) when she first does it, is there something she’s doing wrong while bleaching/coloring it that’s making it go brassy so fast? Or is my natural hair just a weird, bad color for going blonde? She keeps claiming that it has to do with my hair having a tendency to “pull red and gold,” but I’m wondering if maybe that’s just an excuse to cover up her inexperience. I mean, my natural hair color is just dark brown. And lots of girls with dark brown hair seem to go blonde just fine.
Anyway, it sounds like I need to just try someone else. Boo. I just didn’t want to lose a nice hairstylist that I got along with if my hair just doesn’t want to be blonde and it’s not her fault.
I would still love suggestions from anyone on products/techniques to combat brassiness, though!
Post # 10
I feel your pain. My hair “pulls” a lot of gold too but I’ve had stylists who were able to make it a beautiful blonde in spite of that. In the first pic it looks like she used an ashy blonde–I’m not a stylist but I’ve been told not to use anything ashy in my hair.
What about some white-blonde or lighter blonde highlights over your entire head to break it up?
Post # 11
@Mrs.Honeybee- That’s strange, I used to have that problem until I went to a hairdresser that finally used toner. Hmmm, I have natural blonde hair but it’s ash blonde and I used to have that same issue. I know they just fixed it with toner so I was hoping that was the issue for you too because it’s an easy fix. I would consider just trying someone else and more experienced for once.
Post # 12
She isn’t lying when she says your hair has a tendency to pull reds. Anytime you go from a dark color to blonde, 99% of people will have this problem, red is almost always a big component of brown hair.
If you have just gone blonde, then don’t worry about the gross warmness, it’s going to happen. IMO she needs to leave the bleach on a bit longer and tone for longer. After multiple times, this should stick.. probably just inexperience. Ask blondes you know where they go. My last stylist could never get the shade just right, even if I brought in a billion pictures. I went to my current stylist with a single picture and he got it spot on the first time. It depends if you figure it’s worth the money though since highlights from a good stylist do not come cheap and it sounds like yours will involve a bit of extra upkeep.
Post # 13
When she lightens your hair is she using an ash to go over top? My hair is usually close to platinum, I bleach it out and add the lightest ash blonde for a few minutes afterwards to tone it. Of course by the time I have to do my roots, the colour is slightly more brassy but not bad enough to really notice, only I notice it because it’s my hair and I’m picky. I have tried different purple shampoos and some really don’t help, Joico I’ve noticed works really well, almost too well sometimes and I have to stop for a few washes so my hair isn’t too grey or doesn’t go purplish.
Post # 14
use a purple based shampoo inbetween your trips to the hair dresser it’ll help tone down your yellow hair …shimmer lights it great and you can get it at any sallys
Post # 15
Are you getting highlights/foils or just having her dye it all over?
I had my hair heavy highlighted blonde for yearssss, and it was never brassy. Granted, my hair isn’t naturally as dark as yours, but it shouldn’t be turning that yellow/brassy right away. It could be that your hair really does just pull warm colors, but she should be able to get it to more of a beige blonde.
I’ve always had the most natural results when my hairdresser foils in 2 different shades of blonde.. it just gives it more dimension.
Post # 16
It is alll about the right tone of blonde. I have natural red in my hair(french grandma) and my hair rarely gets brassy or dull when I was blonde. I use a beige blonde, the CHI line when my girl does it… also what level of developer she uses too. I JUST went back brown today but here are some pics
A month ago
now brown!! Its pretty dark but will tone down alot soon!