(Closed) Kept a secret….What to do next…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Do I tell people were engaged/back together?
    Yes, there's no reason to keep it a secret : (15 votes)
    17 %
    NO think about how he's being treated about this : (0 votes)
    Move on and find someone who isn't ashamed of you : (71 votes)
    83 %
    Deal with it and be there for him to support him. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @call_me_breezee: come on! he’s hiding you. tell him to pull the covers back or your leaving.

    Post # 5
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    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No one know yall are back together, let alone engaged and yall are getting married in a few weeks.  Who is coming to the wedding?  Personally, I cannot see myself with a person that is afraid to tell people that we are together and engaged.  If you get married, he can’t hide the marriage.  I would want him to let everyone know that we’re engaged.  It seems like there a lot of people who disapprove of yall relationship and what people think really matters to him.  So much that he won’t even come clean about yall relationship.  I would iron this out before I walk down the aisle if I were you.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Um what’s the plan for eventually telling his friends and family that you are back together?  If he wants to be with you then he should be with you and his friends can suck it.  I would probably go to the spa that day.  Maybe a movie.  Those are things that get me completely relaxed and not thinking about anything else.

    Post # 7
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    There’s no reason your engagement should be a secret. It just doesn’t make sense that he should hide the fact that you’re together and soon to be wife. It should be a happy thing, but something to be scared of telling people. I agree with the others, either he comes clean to his friends or I would leave. You deserve someone who is excited to be with you and wants to tell the world about it.

    Post # 8
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @funlovingbridetobe:I think a few weeks was the original wedding date, not the current one.  I don’t think she stated if a new date was set.

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @mwitter80: second this.

    If he’s not going to admit you’re his girlfriend, do you really think he’s going to admit you’re his WIFE?  Do you want to be the “dirty little secret”?  ’cause girl, that’s what you currently are.  

    I vote walk away while you still can.  If he isn’t going to stand up and declare that you’re the one he loves, then he isn’t worth YOUR love.  

    good luck!

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @mwitter80: yikes.  ummmm…. that makes this even more… um… questionable?  worrying?  how about both???

    Post # 11
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    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @mwitter80: well… yeaaaah, I was thinking it, but didn’t want to say it.  🙁  

    Post # 12
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    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Maybe you both should just move on?  After reading both your posts I think that would be your best bet. 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Run away and don’t look back.
    To HELL with  being a secret, and TO HELL WITH A DOUCHEBAG GUY WITH STDS.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Run!

     

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Some women just amaze me.  OP is one of them, if she’s for real. 

    Post # 16
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    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I will give you the same advice I just gave my sister.  If a man loves you, he will not be ashamed to be with you, seen with you, or tell people about you. Period.  No excuses are good enough for him not to be proud to be with you.

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