Post # 1
So my fiancee and I have been in this on again off again relationship. Our last break up was for 8 months. He and I reengaged after only a few days of talking to each other again. But here’s the hard part. He isn’t telling any of his friends and family that were back together let alone engaged. I know that he loves me and cares for me very much. But I’m embarrassed/ashamed of being a secret. He cant spend time with me or his friends togethter. And I just found out that people who think they know what’s going on have been sending him letters and emails acting like it’s me talking trash to him while he’s at work. He tells me that the reason why he doesnt say anything is because of the reaction he will get. I dont feel like i’m engaged anymore. He’s always talking about marriage. Our original wedding date is coming up in a few weeks June 11 2011. What should I do that day to get it out of my mind?
Post # 3
@call_me_breezee: come on! he’s hiding you. tell him to pull the covers back or your leaving.
Post # 5
No one know yall are back together, let alone engaged and yall are getting married in a few weeks. Who is coming to the wedding? Personally, I cannot see myself with a person that is afraid to tell people that we are together and engaged. If you get married, he can’t hide the marriage. I would want him to let everyone know that we’re engaged. It seems like there a lot of people who disapprove of yall relationship and what people think really matters to him. So much that he won’t even come clean about yall relationship. I would iron this out before I walk down the aisle if I were you.
Post # 6
Um what’s the plan for eventually telling his friends and family that you are back together? If he wants to be with you then he should be with you and his friends can suck it. I would probably go to the spa that day. Maybe a movie. Those are things that get me completely relaxed and not thinking about anything else.
Post # 7
There’s no reason your engagement should be a secret. It just doesn’t make sense that he should hide the fact that you’re together and soon to be wife. It should be a happy thing, but something to be scared of telling people. I agree with the others, either he comes clean to his friends or I would leave. You deserve someone who is excited to be with you and wants to tell the world about it.
Post # 8
@funlovingbridetobe:I think a few weeks was the original wedding date, not the current one. I don’t think she stated if a new date was set.
Post # 9
@mwitter80: second this.
If he’s not going to admit you’re his girlfriend, do you really think he’s going to admit you’re his WIFE? Do you want to be the “dirty little secret”? ’cause girl, that’s what you currently are.
I vote walk away while you still can. If he isn’t going to stand up and declare that you’re the one he loves, then he isn’t worth YOUR love.
Post # 10
@mwitter80: yikes. ummmm…. that makes this even more… um… questionable? worrying? how about both???
Post # 11
@mwitter80: well… yeaaaah, I was thinking it, but didn’t want to say it. 🙁
Post # 12
Maybe you both should just move on? After reading both your posts I think that would be your best bet.
Post # 13
Run away and don’t look back.
To HELL with being a secret, and TO HELL WITH A DOUCHEBAG GUY WITH STDS.
Post # 15
Some women just amaze me. OP is one of them, if she’s for real.
Post # 16
I will give you the same advice I just gave my sister. If a man loves you, he will not be ashamed to be with you, seen with you, or tell people about you. Period. No excuses are good enough for him not to be proud to be with you.