- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
This is a long story so thanks in advance if you make it to the bottom of this haha
my Future Sister-In-Law and my brother in law have been engaged since September of 2011 and will be married in 2013… she had asked me last year to be a bridesmaid and I said yes.
My boyfriend (now husband) proposed last December and we tied the knot on 10-11-12 in Las Vegas, I had also asked my Future Sister-In-Law to be my bridesmaid and she said yes.. she later backed out at my first dress appointment after meeting my other bridesmaids and told us that “she might not be able to go to Vegas if she gets a job after graduating college” which I completely understood, I know that not everyone has the time to travel for a wedding however, I was a little hurt because I know I would go to her wedding regardless of where it was or what job I had because I care about her (but I guess that is a selfish way of thinking about it?) I also found it very strange that she backed out in front of everyone at me first dress appointment after she met my friends.
There was a ridiculous amount of controversy surrounding my destination wedding with my Future Sister-In-Law and my now Mother-In-Law, they both thought it was a selfish decision and was very rude because not everyone in my husbands family would be able to go. Long story short my Mother-In-Law and I are no longer speaking even though she did still end up attending our wedding in Vegas (wearing a bright green and very very short and cleavage revealing dress) after she told me that she was planning on being “invisible” at the wedding. My husband and I made sure to have our ceremony broadcasted live so that the people that couldn’t attend could watch our ceremony… unfortunately my MIL’s cleavage was the only thing you could see in the video besides us.. I promise im not exaggerating. I know it seems like I’m nagging on her a lot but this woman has pretty much ruined any happiness surrounding our engagement, I have posted on here several times about her.. she once tried to crash the wedding by inviting her online message board friends and sending out our personal information with the wedding details. She created a thread on a message board titled bridezilla which contained over 200 posts about me saying horrible things that I didn’t even know she felt about me.. like “I pray they don’t have children after the wedding because I don’t want to go through a custody battle” and much much more.
Anyway, my Future Sister-In-Law and my Mother-In-Law both despise me and have made it very clear that they think I am a horrible person.. a week before my wedding I received an email from my Mother-In-Law saying that Future Sister-In-Law ended up not getting a job after she graduated and she now wanted to go to Vegas…. my first reaction- “are you freaking kidding me?!” after all of that drama with my Future Sister-In-Law not being able to attend and backing out of the wedding party she now wants to go a month after the RSVP’s were due and less than a week before the wedding? I told her no and her boyfriend (my brother in law) brought his friend and we all partied in Vegas without her.
The day I got home from my Vegas wedding I had a facebook message from her saying “after many discussions we have decided that it would be best that you attend my wedding as a guest, hope you can understand.”
first of all- she sent a facebook message…. didn’t even tell me to my face?! Does anyone else think that is BS?!
WHY did she even kick me out? She gave me no reason!
I do not know what to do with this family anymore… I feel like my Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law are ganging up on me and making me out to be a monster when I feel like I am just standing up for myself.. My brother in law and I used to be somewhat friends and I feel like this will probably ruin that.. along with the relationships I had with other family members.
I feel lost… and my husband is just staying completely out of it. I feel like everyone thinks that I am wrong and I am crazy for thinking that what I do and say is the right thing.
its been so hard to enjoy our entire engagement and being married for 6 days now with these two women attacking everything I do.. Ive tried my best to ignore them but what am I supposed to do about the future if I want to completely cut both of them out yet still want to see the rest of the family?