Post # 1
Okay I’m going to try to make this very long story as short as possible. I asked a friend from high school to be in my wedding (I had been in hers 5 years ago, and I thought it was only right) however since since we graduated high school and went off to college we drifted a lot. I graduated, she got pregnant, got married, and dropped out and our paths never really crossed much but we attempted to stay in contact with each other. When it came to dress shopping for my wedding she was MIA and finally bought a dress just to tell me a week later that she was pregnant and I had to buy her a new dress because she wouldn’t be able to afford a new one (why didn’t she take that into consideration when she went shopping when she was already 8 weeks along is beyond me). I refused, since I refused to buy her a new dress, she refused to do anything for my bridal shower saying she was having money problems and didn’t have money to spare and wasn’t even sure that she would still be in the wedding knowing that her dress wouldn’t fit and couldn’t afford a new one so she didn’t think she needed to help with the shower. Okay, fine I turned the other way until she started on drama on Facebook ( I know of all places /things to do) she was talking about me directly on facebook and then posted that she was going to a pot convention and if she did show up to my wedding she would do it high because she bought the best pot ever and our wedding would probably suck anyway ( My fiance and I are against doing drugs, he’s a teacher and my birth was a drug addict, I don’t want anything to do with people like that) That was the point that I kicked her out of the wedding. I wasn’t exactly nice about it, but I didn’t yell at her either. I told her I didn’t appreciate what she was doing, what she was saying about me, and the immautirty of it all. As soon as that happened she was messaging my other bridesmaids and causing a lot of drama with them and dragging all of her other friends into the situation and having them text me bitching me out because I was a “shitty friend” and then she had the nerve to tell her family that I kicked her out of the wedding because she’s pregnant. So of course that caused more unwanted drama. I’m really good friends with most of her family, and my fiance thinks because some of her family members are still invited to the wedding she should be as well. I don’t think I can trust her, and I need advice. Thanks!
Post # 2
I’m in a similar situation (she backed out) and don’t know what to do either. I think our friendship is pretty much over.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse
Honestly if it were me, I’d not invite her and cut my losses.
People like that are so poisonous and it’s not worth the stress, it took me a long time it understand that, but I’m so much better of for it.
Post # 4
So wait … she’s pregnant, but she still gets high regularly?
Sounds like a peach.
I wouldn’t invite her. Nobody needs a friend like that.
Post # 5
I think you’d be better off not inviting her, she doesn’t sound like the most stable of individuals, and I know that I’d be stressed about whether she’d cause a scene at the wedding. Even if she doesn’t cause a scene but makes snarky comments or acts immaturely, you don’t need that at your wedding. Good luck!
Post # 6
Hold on, hold on! I need to get this straight: SHE’S PREGNANT AND THREATENING TO SHOW UP AT YOUR WEDDING HIGH?! ……………….I would cut her out of my life completely- block her on facebook and do not invite her to your wedding! And if she keeps finding ways to harass you I’d threaten to call CPS on her.
Post # 7
Don’t bother inviting her; the friendship is over and frankly, she sounds like a crazy person. Just tell her you think it’s best if you go your own ways and you wish her the best with her baby. If she’s willing to start trouble in a public arena like your Facebook, who knows what she’ll say to your relatives given the chance.
Post # 8
Okay, I’m glad I’m not looking like a bad person by not wanting her there. I can’t trust her and that is one of the major reasons why I don’t want her there, and its stressing me out to the max.
Post # 9
I personally would not invite her or continue the friendship. Sorry you are going through this!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2015 - The Biltmore Ballrooms
Hot boiling mess. I think you were nice to invite her to be part of the WP.. but you should block her from attending. And have folks on the look out for her on the day of. And if she’s pregs and going to a pot convention then….. yea, you must moe on from the friendship in general.
Post # 11
And you want to invite her to your wedding why?