Kid Count – Guest List dilemma

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1251 posts
Bumble bee

@linsical:  I think since you are not opposed,  it is great to invite them all. If the parents want to they can bring their children.  If they don’t want to, they can leave them at home.

Post # 4
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965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@linsical:  If you aren’t opposed to some kids, but the idea of inviting all of them is too much, then just invite those kids that are close to you (nieces and nephews) and provide information on baby sitters or a service that provides nannies in the area for parents who would like to make the trip a family vacation, but who’s children are not invited to the wedding.

Post # 6
Member
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@linsical:  Try to remember that just because their child isn’t invited to teh wedding itself, doesn’t mean that their kid can’t come on vacation. If they stay at a resort, many of them offer “kids club” activities for parents to get a night out while on vacation as well. See if your host hotel offers anythingl ike that.

Post # 7
Member
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@linsical:  We had to create a kid rule for our guest list.  We aren’t opposed to kids at the wedding, but if we included all the kids for some people, we were losing spots for family or friends that we dearly wanted to invite because of our venue’s capacity (150).  We limited the kids to nieces/nephews, godchildren, and 1st cousins (Mr. S has a very large family and some of his cousins are still quite young but we didn’t want to leave them out).  So, our cousins’ kids and friends’ kids didn’t make the cut.  But that gave us about 20 more seats for people we really wanted there.  It was a fight to get Mr. S to actually APPLY the rule even after he willingly agreed to it since he was worried about offending people, but we couldn’t make exceptions for the people on his side and then not on mine.

Post # 9
Member
9533 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We invited all kids to our wedding and let parents decide if they wanted to bring them. I think almost everyone did end up bringing their kids. We ended up with at least 20 kids under the age of 10 out of 150 total guests. That included 8 babies under the age of one! It was awesome! We did provide a babysitter for those that wanted one during the ceremony and didn’t hear a peep from the kids that attended the ceremony. And the kids had a blast! The whole thing was outdoors, which helped. They ran around and played with each other during the cocktial hour. They had the same dinner buffet as the adults, ages 2-10 were at half the cost, under 2 free. And they tore it up on the dance floor and encouraged the adults to get out and shake their groove thang!

I had actually never heard of a child free wedding until joining the bee. I certainly understand not wanting to deal with the uncertainty that can sometimes accompany children. But I’ve always seen weddings as family affairs, so it makes sense to me to invite them. But that’s me. Luckily, my husband agreed.

Post # 10
Member
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@linsical:  We invited kids, our wedding was at a Children’s Museum and ended up having about 12 kids total. Since nearly all of our guests had to fly, a few sets of parents chose to leave their kids at home, to save on travel costs. The parents who brought kids under 2 either left on the early side or sent one parent back to the hotel with the kid at around 8 or 9. We did not hire a babysitter as the kids had plenty to do!

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