- 3 years ago
Hello everyone, this is my first post although I have been lurking here for the best part of a year almost everyday following the boards, i’ve read some of the bee’s fantastic advice so I know i can rely on you guys to see me right! Sorry if this is very long- but i thought it best to explain it all.
I’ve been at my current position for four months, on a ‘tempory contract’ that they have just extended. Aside from some issues i will explain further, I really do like it here. I work in the office in data processing (I know, It’s no hot-shot position but it pays relitively well and is a stress free, simple role- something i need right now). My only issue, however, is my two superiors. One is a man whos my direct line manager- who is in office the most frequent, almost everyday. The other comes in sporadiacly when she needs to.
Back in February, I had a kidney infection. It warranted me having two nights in hospital and It was agonizing- i’ve never been one to get ill, so it came as a shock to me. I’m always very careful about my health but i did have cystitus like symptoms but i self-medicated with those cranberry flavoured citrate sachets you mixed with water and assumed (stupidly) it would go away by itself. Besides, I didnt really have the time (niavely) to go to the doctors as i was still new in my job and didnt want to take the time off to go. after a week, the symptoms persisted until the evening of February 14th (Yes this is how i spent my valentines evening ladies- very romantic) where after struggling through a lovely home cooked dinner my boyfriend went to so much effort to cook me- I was doubled over in bed writhing in agony.
Long story short- I went straight into hospital. My man was worried sick- he’d never seen me in so much pain/being sick, ect and he was wonderful. Was told i had a very high infection level in my blood test and a short examination by the doctor I was told i have Pylonethritus in my left kidney (he prodded my kidney and I practically leaped off the bed). My boyfriend called my boss- by this time I was high as a kite on pain medication and to my boyfriends sympathetic amusement said I sounded drunk-so he spoke to my boss and they seems sypathetic albeit a bit subduded. He said he could detect annoyance in his tone, but i was in so much pain i couldnt care less.
Fast forward two weeks, I felt much better. Antibiotic drips and oral medication, and co-codamol seemed to have done the trick. I provided a doctors note (for seven days post-self certifying)which I had mailed a copy of a week earlier as required, and also my hospital dicharge papers. The day of my return- My boss completely ignored me. and I mean- LITTTERALLY, avoided even LOOKING at me. The stress of being given the cold shoulder frightened me- I honestly thought they were going to fire me. My fellow collegues were sympathetic but he just made me feel like total crap. After two weeks of total hell, i decided to call him up and ask to speak with him, of which this conversation followed. (This was all said in quite frankly, very rude, and obnoxious tone from him)
Me: Hi C, I know you’ve been really busy lately but i can’t help but notice the atmosphere between us has changed. Is there anything wrong?
C: Casey I dont know what to say. Your sick time is rather difficult for me to explain to other employee’s. It makes me look bad.
Me: I have a perfect sick record other than this- I’m always on time too, even in before anyone else. This was a shock to me also- Ive never been that ill for a very long time-years.
C: B (another new employee) has been here only a month longer than you and has taken no sick time.
Me: I can’t help that I was hospitalized. I provided a doctors note and everything you needed.
C: You ought to think about your future here and try and be more reliable, it just isnt good enough.
Me: I was ill. I’m human. I dont believe you are being very compassionate.
He then began a rant about how supportive he’s trying to be, by extending my contract “Giving me another chance” ect. I decided I had no more time to hear him tell me how being genuinely ill was ‘effecting my proformance’. I admit i got emotional, and told him I thought he was being unfair. We eventually agreed to wipe the slate clean and start over.
However just last week, I have infection symptoms again. (This now my third bout of antibiotics for this kidney issue- I’m also on stronger painkillers) I’ve been reffered to a specialist but two days ago, I was in hospital again on a drip. They think I have a cluster of stones in my kidney as seen on an ultrasound, and they are sporadically moving and causing the most agonizing pain I’ve ever experienced in my life. I took two more days off- after being in hospital, however im still in pain after passing one of these stones in my filter cup i was given to pee in. Yesterday I went back in even though my doctor advised more rest time. I bring a hot water bottle to work and i’m taking more pain medication that I care to admit everyday. Everybody tells me i look terrible- and i admit it i really do. He still hasnt bothered to see if i’m okay/nor ask.
I’m frightened I’m going to lose my job as he’s ignoring me again. If my specialist doctor can’t correct my issues via medication or other treatments I know I will eventually need more time if i start passing these stones- I know it’ll get worse sooner rather than later.
Is it worth this? I keep asking myself why I’m even bothering as he has zero duty of care and compassion whatsoever.
Please help bees- I’m inches away from resigning completely.