Post # 1
My fiancce and I agreed pretty early on that we wanted a kid-free wedding, and as most of our friends are pretty young and do not have kids yet this didnt seem like an issue at all, however his two neices will be our flowergirls and now I’m wracking my brain for solutions. The set up is: The ceremony and recption are all in one location. His sister, the mother to both flowergirls, is my Matron of Honor and will be seated(with her husband) at the head table. Me and my fiancee both agree that since they are in the wedding they are invited to all parts of the wedding, however I am concerned with where and who they will sit with during the reception since both of their parents are at the head table and I dont want the girls to be at the head table also. Is is rude to sit them with grandparents? Should I just ask their mom what she wants and do it? Could I offer to pay for a babysitter to come get them around 9 and take them back to their parents hotel room? Should I set up the Bridal Suite for them to play/crash in for the reception?
Post # 2
ohyesitslizz: I would offer to either pay for a babysitter or set them up the bridal suite. I think the babysitter would be my preferred option personally
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I would talk to the mother/grandparents and sit them with the grand parents if that’s okay.
Post # 4
I would just talk to her. Explain to her you would be more than happy to pay for a babysitter or if she prefers to have them with the grandparents that would be fine too. I don’t think that is rude by any means to tell her that you don’t want them at the head of the table. If you just open it up to her and give her options rather than telling her how it will be I think that will have a better outcome of what the plan should be.
Post # 5
- Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club
What about ditching the head table and just ding a sweatheart table? My Maid/Matron of Honor has 3 kids, one of which is a flower girl. There was no way I was going to make her husband or the grandparents try to wrangle the kids so we opted for a sweateart table and Maid/Matron of Honor can sit with her kids.
Post # 6
Ask their mother what she thinks is best, giving her the options to either have them with the grandparents or a babysitter.
We had DH’s neice and nephew as flower girl and ring bearer at the ceremony. Afterwards, they went up to their parent’s hotel room with their siblings for a big pizza party. It actually worked out really great for everyone! The kids had a blast and the parents were able to really have a good time without worrying about their kids.
Post # 7
ohyesitslizz: I would ask the grandparents and mom if it is okay to sit them with the grandparents. I wouldn’t ask the mom an open ended question because she might say they should sit with her… which what you said you didn’t want. Setting them up in the bridal suite might be disastrous depending on age. Your venue might not like it. But maybe you could get a babysitter that the parents know well / are comfortable with.
Post # 8
ohyesitslizz: Why won’t you allow them to sit at the head table if they are part of the wedding party?
They’d be seated with thier parents- and also be included in the group they are part of that day. Don’t assume thier parents will be OK with a babysitter that they may not know- I don’t know allow just anyone to watch my kid.
Post # 9
Thanks everyone! They will be 9 and 6 at the wedding, and my venue has said that I can set them up in the Bridal Suite no problem, now I just have to run the options by their mom.