Post # 1
Hiya Bees, hope everyone is having a good week.
Sorry if this has been debated over and over…
Kids at the wedding: Yes or No?
My family are flying in from the UK to San Diego and my nephews (who will be 2 & 3y/o at the date) are going to be little minion ring bearers walking alongside their parents (bro and SIL are in the BP).
I don’t really have a problem with bubs/toddlers being at the wedding when their parents are flying in from OOS or abroad – I planned on doing a mini “tent” with coloring books and crayons and a box of duplo in one corner of the reception – and theres a climbing frame/slide setup at the site. At the moment that number is looking like 5 little ‘uns total.
But several of our in-town guests have kids – many 12y/o+ – and some have 3-4 children. That’s a lot of extra tummies, and our guest list is solid at 100, we really cannot afford an extra 20-30 people (not to mention the venue has a small capacity).
Should we just word the invitations with specific names/”you have __ seats reserved in your honor” and hope people will not just assume?
Or should we be more specific? I don’t want to step on anyone’s toes when they see my nephews or OOS babies (none of the kids currently included on the list are older than 5).
Post # 3
That’s a tough one! BUT I think it is fair to call it out on your website and ensure that those who do have children’s invites have a clear number somwhere or are addressed properly.
I also think that your newphews is different than a family friends 12 year old.
Honestly – I keep seeing “do not put no children on your invite it’s against etiquette and tacky blah blah blah” but I would honestly rather worry about people thinking I’m tacky than having people not pick up on the hints and bring children anyways or call and ask. I like things to be black and white. I had a friend who brought children even though the website clearly stated no children. So I would be as clear as you possibly can!
Post # 4
We are not having any kids at our wedding minus immediate family. My niece, who will be 4 at the wedding, will be there. The next youngest are my cousin’s 13-year-old twin sons. They are coming from Texas and are invited (they will most likely get bored quickly and then head up to the room we are keeping to play games). We are lucky in that only one other couple has children and I just talked with her and told her we are keeping things adults only as our wedding is on New Year’s Eve and will go past midnight. I also put “adults only wedding/reception” on our website. I would suggest putting the names of the people actually invited on the response cards (Jan and Joh Smith) which makes it super clear–lets hope–who is invited. I think it is perfectly fine to allow the children from OOT and keep everything else adults only.