(Closed) Kids at weddings

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Do u plan on having any kid friend things? A lot of brides hire a babysitter to watch the kiddos in a separate room.

Post # 4
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m also facing the problem of having quite a few children at my ceremony and reception.  As much as I don’t want children at wedding, a lot of our friends and family with children are traveling to come to the wedding, and it would be terribly rude to tell them to keep the kids at home or with a babysitter.  I plan on being proactive and giving the kids stuff to do, such a bags with coloring books, crayons, games/scavenger hunt, and a disposable camera.  A babysitter is out of the question, since the other rooms at our venue are already booked.  

Unfortunately, you can’t control the behavior of all of the kids (or adults!) at your wedding.  The best thing you can do is be proactive, and hope everything goes okay.  

Post # 5
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would def design or provide some sort of entertainment for the kids (coloring, drawing, ‘I Spy’ book even) something keeps them quiet.

I also considered hiring a babysitter that would watch over the kids and keep them entertained, but went decided against it since my reception was ending kind of early (9pm) and figured they could tough it out. The kids ended up playing A LOT in the photobooth, but not in a bad way…they just REALLY liked getting their picture taken and I cracked up when I saw them. The people running the photobooth were amazing with them and told me they truly didn’t mind since the kids weren’t running around the booth or being ‘naughty’.

Good Luck!

Post # 6
46222 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Do you have a corner that you could designate as the “Kids Corner”?

They would still be in the same room as the parents.

You could set up a monitor with a DVD player, a kids picnic table( or two) for coloring etc.

Post # 7
1832 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We invited 15 kids, and I thought I had alot!

Post # 9
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would have kids tables and activities for them for during the reception. As for the ceremony, I’d provide a place for parents to take unruly children and otherwise rely on the parents to keep their kids in line. Most kids do behave at times like this.

Post # 10
31 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have about the same number coming to mine… I don’t particularly want them either, but since it’s a destination wedding of sorts I know it would greatly limit who could attend if I said no kids. I tried offering the babysitter thing, but again since it won’t be in my hometown I don’t know anyone who could provide babysitting personally and the mothers I’ve spoken with have made it clear they will not leave their children with someone they don’t know – even a professional.

So, I’m just gonna go with it. And I think you should too… If anything, it seems from the weddings I’ve attended with kids, having misbehaving children only ruin their parents’ night and the bride and groom are too preoccupied to notice…. But honestly, I’ve never seen it cause more than the issue of the mom/dad having to keep an eye on them constantly… sucks but it’s a reality a lot of brides deal with it seems.



Post # 11
8473 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Luckily for me, my husbands nieces n nephews n my two younger second cousins are extremely well behaved. I went through the same thing, not wanting kids there, but it was a losing battle. It was more like what on earth does a kid do at a wedding. But it was a blast n not a single one acted up. The youngest was like 6 or so. 

Just remember this… They are NOT YOUR PROBLEM!! They are their parents responsibility and if they act up, their parents need to deal with it. 

Post # 12
1026 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I worked as a manager at a restaurant/wedding venue, and this came up pretty often.  A lot of times the bride would ask me/whatever manager was on duty to handle any kids that got out of hand- whether they were too loud, wandering around unsupervised etc.  I would just go up to the parents and say something like “I’m sorry our restaurant policy is children must remain with their parents.  Could you make sure they sit next to you, I don’t want any of the servers to bump into them or spill something because they didn’t see them coming.” or “Could we keep it down a little over here, we want all our guests to enjoy their evening.”  Since it was coming from the staff rather then the bride/groom the guests didn’t get irritated at the bride/groom, and most of the time it only took saying something once for the parents to be super embarassed and get their kids under control.   

Post # 13
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@Lotsofchocolateplease:  Oh girl, I am in the same boat!  I’m also interested in seeing what other Bees have to say and any advice.  According to my guest list there are 47 kids!  I love my nieces and friends’ kids (even though they are a handful at times) and would never disallow them at my wedding (plus, we’re at Disney, how you can you deny the kids Disney, lol).  I have thought about favors for kids (little coloring books with crayons, candy, toy cars, plastic jewelry, etc.) but haven’t seriously thought hard about it yet.  The only part of the day that I am really worried about is during the ceremony with the possibility of a crying baby with a mom who doesn’t move to the back of the room to try to soothe the baby.  But, you can’t prevent everything from happening, so we will go with the flow.  :-p

Post # 14
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I heard someone recommend a movie or two in a different room. Projector, screen, popcorn (especially if you can find something they haven’t seen yet). 

Post # 15
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My venue told us that there are rattlesnakes and therefore kids need to be closely monitored. Also since it is a historical site they don’t want kids running around and potentially damaging things.

I’m going with the snakes scare tactic. LOL

Post # 16
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I know your budget is tight, but I just wanted to add to the conversation. I was just a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding a few weeks ago where the bride & groom sprung for a sitter & kids station last minute. They agreed it was the best money they spent on the entire wedding, and parents were absolutely THRILLED to not have to spend the evening chasing their kids around. Everyone was able to relax and had a blast. Just a thought…

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