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    Ashley_B    September 22, 2012  

    Since I've been planning my wedding and making my guest list, and I've thought of a problem that may occure on my wedding day! Kids are going to come, because many people have to travel to come, and to be honest, I dont mind kids and my fiancees little brother and sister are 13 and 7. When I mean kids though, its a select few who come to mind. They can be very fussy, the parents let them do whatever and seldom listen to other parents and adults.

    What should I do if this happens? Can I say something because its my wedding day?

    Im probley putting to much stress into it, but I have seen them throw tantrums and its not pretty!

    Thanks!

     
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    Peony007    May 4, 2012  

    I recommend having a 'kids only' room if you have the space (or it can be done in a hotel room). Bring in pizza, movies and games for them. You can put an ad on sittercity.com or cares.com for a couple cheap sitters. That way they're out of your hair, the kids are happy, and the parents can celebrate your wedding sans kids.

     
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    crh1729    April 7, 2012   Wilson NC

    @Ashley_B: I know we're doing a word search/crossword on the back of our programs for this reason.  We're also doing a wedding activity book and have a cornhole board for the reception. There are lots of great threads around here for keeping little hoodlums angels occupied

     
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    Ashley_B    September 22, 2012  

    Thats a great ideal, but its a small hall, and doesnt have an extra room/space. And is it rude to expect that they should just behave? When I was little (5-10) I went to many weddings and i had to be on my best behaviour, and weddings never had special rooms for kids!

    And another question, if a guests kid decides to throw a fit/cause a fuss, is it out of line for me (the bride!!!) to say something? That was more my question all along. Undecided

     

     
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    CupCakeMeg    December 18, 2011   Orange County, CA

    @Ashley_B: is it wrong for you to say something when a kid is acting out of line....well no, but should you, no.

    Hopefully you wont be paying enough attention to notice those little annoyances and parents can be kindly reminded/instructed (Maybe through the Program?) to leave if any child becomes fussy or agitated during any part of the ceremony.

    I dont have kids, but put yourself in the parents' shoes, and think how you might want to be approached about your "devil child." lol

    Best of Luck to you!

     
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    Soon to be Mrs. McKenna    March 14, 2012  

    AHhhh I have this same problem. I am the youngest cousin, soooo allll my cousins have kids. and our wedding is out of town for everyone. so my suggestion was to have a room for the kids with pizza, movies, games ect... my dad thought that was rude and said no... soooo.. kids are invited..... makes me nervous!

     
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    Showers    July 29, 2011   England, United Kindom

    @Ashley_B: DO you mean say something to the child or the parent?

    If it is a niece or nephew that you’re close to, often babysit, and would usually reprimand when you were together, then I would say that yes you could tell them off if they were misbehaving. However, if you’re not that close to these children / their parents and you would not usually get involved in their behaviour management, then you can’t start having a say just because it is your wedding.

    I'm sure that there will be so much happening that you really won't even notice! Don't worry about it!

     

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