Post # 1
My fiance and I decided that it would be best for the children we’re inviting to the wedding to eat in a separate room to keep the adult meal number down. So we’re doing no kids at dinner, BUT they can come to the reception for dancing after dinner.
We’re getting a conference room across from the reception to keep as a “Kids Center.” We’ll be bringing Costco pizzas, soda, and water for them and some games. This idea came from my older cousin, since most of my older cousins are the ones with children we’ll be inviting. The older cousin who suggested it already said that she’ll spread the word to the others so they know whats up.
Any idea on how to word this on the invitation? I’m thinking I may need to make 2 different RSVP cards: one for adult guests and another for guests with children. Any help appreciated!
Post # 3
@MrsDJ: No idea how to word this on an invite, or if you even should, but I just want to ask- who’s babysitting? It seems to me someone should keep an eye on the kids during all this. Have you guys planned for that?
Post # 4
@lanalnoco: We have. We’re going to have the eldest kids (ages 16 and 17) watch their cousins. The children we will be inviting are all from my first cousin’s side of the family on my Dad’s side. So the elder cousins are used to doing this at family parties at parks, amusement parks, etc. We’re also going to ask a friend of my bridesmaids to watch them for extra coverage.
Post # 5
I am doing the same thing, but kept it off the invite. Instead, it is on the website on both the FAQs and RSVP. It says:
Are children invited? Yes, children are absolutely invited! We view weddings as an opportunity to bring families together and think children add to the celebration.
For the ceremony, there is no crying room and no place to walk around if a child is fussing. There are doors on either side of the church, as well as in the back. Feel free to enter and exit the church as you wish.
During the reception we will be having babysitters at our venue. We tentatively plan to have kids 1-12 downstairs, and infants and teenagers upstairs during the meal and speeches. After dinner, parents are more than welcome to bring their kids upstairs for cupcakes and dancing.
And the RSVP part of the website says:
We will plan on having children 1-12 downstairs in a playroom with babysitters for the cocktail hour, speeches, and meals. They are more than welcome to join the adults upstairs for cupcakes and dancing if you wish. If your infant or young child does not require a meal, please let us know.
Post # 6
@Pollywog: Thanks so much! It seems like when in doubt, put it on the website!
Post # 7
@MrsDJ: I LOVE that idea, if I was having lots of kids I would probebly do that as well, but I have no desire to put that much into it.
I really think 2 serpate is best, so the kids feel included. Wording should probebly go about eating dinner however they like,knife and fork suggested, 😉 play some games and drink some punch before coming over to dance.
Post # 8
With all the post that I’ve read (we decided on 21+) on issues with kids, there are some parents who don’t want to be separated from their children, and there are be some children who don’t want to be separated from their parents. Hopefully since all the kids seem to be cousins, you won’t have this issue.
Post # 9
@MrsDJ: I don’t see why that needs to be on the invitation. Maybe put it on the wedding website if you are having one.
Post # 10
Oo I’m glad to see this post. I was considering this too. Not only will it give us a bit more room in the ballroom, but our DJ also rents out some video games and stuff that we could set up for the kids. We were thinking about just hiring a babysitter or two to keep an eye on everyone. FI doesn’t think that people would be happy about having their kids separate from them. The room they would be in is right next door to the ballroom.