Post # 1
I am putting this in bridesmaids because I’m not quite sure where else it would fit. This is related to members of the wedding party, particulary kids. I have a daughter from a previous relationship, she will be a flowergirl. She’s pretty excited about this and getting to walk down the aisle tossing petals. Now the dilemma I’m running into is that my fiance has 6 nieces and nephews. Its a very close italian family, and we had originally talked about incorporating some of the kids into the wedding party as flowergirls, ring bearer, and a jr bridesmaid.
BUT I’m kind of feeling like trying to find spots to incorporate all the kids is kind of forcing something where it doesn’t go- like theres so many of them it will be silly and also take away from my daughter; i feel like she should feel special on this day. And in terms of the jr bridesmaid I’m really not feeling that, i don’t see the point, just to give her a spot in the wedding. I’m just wondering if it’s really necessary to have them all in the wedding.
Anyone else run into this? Are you having kids in your wedding, and if so how many?
Post # 3
I am having my niece and nephews. (Flower girl, ring bearers)
I think in your case, I would just have my daughter and draw the line there. That way no one’s feelings should be hurt.
Post # 4
If I were you, I’d just have your daughter be the flower girl and call it a day. If you pick and choose between the nieces and nephews, feelings will get hurt. If you allow them all to be apart of your wedding, it will turn into a circus. Your daughter should feel special on her moms wedding day. Incorporating all of the other children in your family will devalue her role.
Post # 5
I agree with PPs, keep it at your daughter to not hurt any feelings. I’m sure the neices and nephews will enjoy the food and dancing with you at the reception!
Post # 6
My children are the flower girl and ring bearer.
FI’s nieces and nephews, while lovely, do not rank on the same level as our children. lol. Sorry.
No one has questioned our bridal party. I did tell my Future Sister-In-Law that she should feel free to wear a dress in a complimentary color to our wedding colors because her hubby (FI’s bro) is in the wedding. I also told her to feel free to dress her dd/ds in dressy clothes for pictures.
Post # 7
def have your daughter… i as well was previous married and i have 14 neices!! my last wedding i had 6 flower girls… this wedding my neice will be a flower girl.. my daughter a bridesmaid.
I told my neices if they WANTED they could be jr bridesmaids..but i also asked my sister an brother for each family to maybe elect 1..because even tho we are having a HUGE itailan wedding.. i am trying to make sure the bridal party isnt gigantic
Post # 8
6 plus your daughter is too many kids to handle in a wedding party! You dont want to be chasing them all around during pictures and stuff. I think you should just have your daughter and thats it. Keep it simple. I’m having my close friends three children in my bridal party the youngest will be the flower girl the middle will be the ring bearer and the oldest will be a junior groomsman. I was originally just going to have the 2 youngest children but thought it wouldnt be fair to exclude the oldest child so he will just walk with the two youngest ones and guide them to keep them in check!
Post # 9
If you get too much family pressure to incorporate all the kids, you might want to think of a way to include your daughter in the ceremony. That way she can have a special moment with the two of you and if there end up being 6 other kids in the wedding party, she’ll still feel special.
Post # 10
I am including my Fiance nieces and nephews in the wedding only because I didn’t want it to be just my family standing up there. If you want your daughter to stand out, I think she should. If it does become an issue with Fiance family there are little ways you can add them in but still let your little girl have her moment.
Are the little girls old enough to read a poem or at least one of them and the others can stand there with her? If they are I would have them sit in front and wear a dress in your contrast color, included them in your program as you “Poem Readers” or make up a cute name and also include them on your wedpage if you have one.
As for the little boys one can be the ring bearer and the others can be the ring security to follow the ring bearer to ensure no one steals the ring or even the the flower girl security to make sure no one touches the flower girl.
As you can probably tell I’m not having a traditional wedding…lol
Hope everthing works out.
Post # 11
We have 13 nieces and nephews and wanted them all in the wedding party. I’m personally crazy about kids and love them to death so I thought on our most special day, I wanted each of them to feel special and a part of our day. Unfortunately the mothers of the two smaller girls (age 2 and a half) decided they were too small to participate and won’t be buying them outfits, and also the mother of one of the older boys (age 7) decided her son would be wearing a tux like his father, so he is not participating either. Still, I think it will be super special, and my friends cant wait to see all the kids because I talk about the so much.
I dont think any amount of kids is too much, these are all well behaved kids, not animals ! They wont be screaming in mass or running around the church. They will at some point poke each other or talk? Sure! No big deal I actually love looking at the kids doing “their thing” at weddings.
Have any of you seen pics from kate moss’ wedding with all the kids? I love that image