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    jadeblue    July 31, 2010   Western Massachusetts

    Hi. My FI and I have several friends, sibs and cousins with small children traveling from out-of-town to attend our wedding. I don't expect them all to leave the kids at home for the weekend, and I'm fine having some of them at the ceremony/cocktail hour, but it's a 6 p.m. wedding and I don't want kids melting down left and right as the evening progresses.

    Is it acceptable to hire a couple of sitters to watch kids at our house or the hotel? How does this usually work? A cousin had adults shuttle children to a house with sitters, snacks, pizza, etc. I'm leaning towards this arrangement. Have you done it (or seen it done)? How has it worked? What's a good sitter-to-kid ratio? What do you pay sitters for a group?

    Any tips to help this go smoothly would be greatly appreciated

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I think that it would be fine to hire sitters.  We didn't allow any children at our wedding even for out of town guests and no one really seemed to mind.  I think that the couples were happy to have time away from the kids for a bit.

     
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    Soon2BeMrsCLW3    July 31, 2010  

    we are expecting a zoo of children at our wedding. a little caution..make sure you check with a good majority of the parents to see if they would like to use the service....the reason why we arent getting one (and i guess the parents will have to deal with their children having meltdowns at 9PM when the party is still jumpin!) is because we were told by several parents that they wouldnt feel comfortable using a baby sitter they didnt know.Foot in mouthi dont get it, but i guess i will once i have little boogers of my own.

     
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    Soon2BeMrsCLW3    July 31, 2010  

    OMG OMG OMG WE ARE DATE TWINS!!!!!!!!!! hehehehhee yay!!!!!

     

     
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    libra5979    04/18/10   Arizona

    We have offered to have sitters at the church daycare (a block from our venue - my parents are members there). I put the offer on the websoite with my email address and a plea for those interested to contact me to set it up. I have heard nothing. My feeling is that people would feel weird leaving little Jimmy and Caroline with a stranger. (Although, how strange can a couple of religious teenage girls really be?)

    Ho hum, I tried.

     
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    moderndaisy    June 2010  

    We lost the battle over the ceremony, but I am putting my foot down about the reception. WE are hiring sitters and will set up a boardroom next to the ballroom with food, games, etc. and our DOC's know that NO KIDS are allowed in the ballroom. At that point it will be after 7:00pm and there will be alcohol and a loud live band so it's just not appropriate for them to attend.

     
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    sarahsd    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    I only have a few out of town guests with kids, but I am going to offer to find a sitter for them.  I'm definitely NOT letting them come to the wedding!  : )

    Maybe people who are reluctant would be more accepting of an adult sitter?

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    I'd double check with the parents. We were thinking of doing the same, but it turns out most of them thanked us for an excuse for a night/weekend away from the kids. See how many people plan on bringing them 1st - it'll make the decision of if or how many babysitters to hire.

     
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    what2bee    August 13, 2011  

    My FMIL works for a babysitting company called grandparents unlimited, and it's mostly older ladies that are very experienced with kids, that might be a good idea for finding good sitters in your area that your guests will be comfortable using, I think this company is local to austin but I'm sure there are others like them near you.

     

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