Post # 1
My sister has three beautiful boys and I am so happy they are coming to the wedding. My flower girl is my BF’s daughter. My cousin has a little girl too (7) She is nine and they are 8 and 4 (twins). I have always felt that expecting little people to behave perfectly through big events was a bit unfair although I do know of situations where it has worked perfectly.
The hotel where my OOT guests are staying is less than 5 minutes away from the venue so my idea is that the 5 kids can go back to the hotel after the wedding ceremony and have fun there with a sitter. There is a pool and they are getting a suite so I thought we could buy them wedding day fun bags loaded with activities so their parents (who are in the wedding party) can focus on the day.
Post # 3
the only way to know if this is really okay is to run it by your cousin and sister. i do think you should pay for the sitter and have the sitter come pick them up from the ceremony so your sister and cousin don’t have to miss the cocktail hour. i think it’s a fine plan.
Post # 4
I think that’s a great idea!!
Post # 5
I agree you’ll need to take this up with her. I won’t leave my kids with just any sitter, so just hiring someone might not work.
Post # 6
i think this is ideal. we are doing exactly this. Any kids (in the wedding party or not) are invited to the ceremony. (FI is one of 76 grandchildren, so he has alot of younger cousins)
Luckily we are having the reception at the hotel where everyone is staying so we got a room and plan to order pizzas and set up movies for all the kids to enjoy.
Post # 7
I think it it is a nice offer but as a parent, I would decline. I would not leave my child in a strange city, in a strange hotel, with a stranger. I’m sorry, but I wanted to be honest.
Post # 8
I think it is great that you are going to do goodie bags for the kids, and the nearby hotel seems like an ideal location. But I would not offer to pay for a “sitter.” I’m not a lawyer, but if you hire someone for child care and (god forbid) something happens, I think you are liable. And, based on a PP, I would guess that most parents would not want to leave their kids with a stranger. Instead, can you coordinate with someone else you know – like a famiily friend who maybe did not get an invite- to watch the kids? Try to set it up like “this dear family friend will watch the kids during the reception” rather than “I’m hiring a sitter.” It might put the ‘rents at ease.
Post # 9
We weren’t going to leave them with a stranger My fiance is a leader at the youth group at his church and has known most of the kids for two years. He also helps with Sunday School for the same group. We were planning to ask one of the young ladies from the group to help out – and we would pay her for the time she puts in. I suggested it to my BF and the idea was really well received. I just hope the rest of the fam – especially the granny will be ok with it…there should be plenty of time for granny pics the day before when we take them out…
Post # 10
I personally wouldn’t leave my children with anyone so might be best to discuss it with your sister. If it’s someone your fiance knows well it sounds like a good plan.