Post # 1
I keep reading about how the bridal party it not like any other guest and should always get a +1. But what about when it comes to the bridal partys children? Do they get an automatic invite too?
A bit more background: My familys children will be invited, I wanted a no kids wedding, but that wasnt an option, so its not like there will be no children. There are 6 kids in my circle of friends that will be invited. One is coming from out of town, so I said her kid will be ok. (shes also a bm).
Was I wrong to tell my other bm I was not allow any other kids besides family and the out of towner?? Should her kids have been allowed? There’s only 5 other children in question… should i just have let them all come since there will be other children anyways? (its two 1 yr olds, a 2 yr old, and two 4 yr olds)
Post # 3
If you really don’t want to have children at the wedding and ended up having children of the family to compromise and maintain the peace you are under NO obligation to invite children of people who live locally. It was generous of you to invite the child of the OOT BM.
The last place a 1,2 or 4 year old want to be is a wedding. Sitting quietly and behaving are not skill sets they have mastered. They would be bored to death and most likely interfere with ther guests’ enjoyment of the wedding.
Post # 4
The bottom line is.. it’s your wedding!! If you don’t want their kids to be there, but just feel as though you’re obliged to invite them, then you shouldn’t invite them. The only people that attend your wedding should be people you actually want their. It’s the one time in all our lives where we should have automatic permission to be selfish for a day 🙂 giving people in the bridal party a plus 1 is generous enough, but plus 2, 3, 4 or 5 is a bit much (depending on how many kids they’ve got). Also, if they seem disappointed that their children can’t come, you can always tell them that it’s just too expensive. The more guests you have, the bigger the venue or the more food you have to pay for. I’m sure they’ll understand. x
Post # 5
Kids are not part of the social unit and do not have to be invited.
It is often easier to have a blanket rule then to pick and choose, even though that is your right. If it was a matter of one extra kid then I would have probably invited them.
Post # 6
I’m not having any children whatsoever at my wedding. The youngest person there will be my brother, & he’ll be 15. My future BIL /SIL have 2 children, but I’ve made it clear it will be adults only. It would just be an awkward place for them to be, & I don’t want them to feel like they can’t enjoy the wedding because they have to watch their children. Plus, I’m not at the point in my life where I even like children. >.>