kids or not to kids….

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

The invitation isn’t really the place for wording of kids or no kids – it’s the addressing of the envelopes where you distinguish this.  

It’s up to you, and there’s no polite way to express “We really don’t want to pay for your kids but if you must bring them we’ll suck it up.” The first thing you need to do is decide if you’re inviting children or not. If no, then you address the invitations to “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe” and stand your ground that you are unable to accomodate guests’ children. This is totally fine to do. If you are inviting children, then address the invitations to “Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, Jack Doe, Sarah Doe.” This is totally fine to do too. 

You will know how many childrens’ meals you’ll need based on your RSVPs, and should be able to clarify well in advance with your caterer how much a children’s meal would cost, if you decide to invite them. Either way, the important thing is to be consistent with what you decide. Good luck!


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