Kids- sit with family or kids table?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: So where are the kids sitting?
    Kids table! : (12 votes)
    17 %
    With their family! : (51 votes)
    71 %
    Kids free wedding! : (9 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    4540 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Families. It’s easier for their parents to watch them that way, especially the under 8-ish ones.

    Post # 4
    7030 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think I’ve ever seen a wedding with a kids’ table, nor do I think it’s a good idea. If kids sit with their parents then their parents can supervise them, plus kids are generally more comfortable sitting with their parents.

    Post # 6
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We are having a child-free wedding, but if there were any there, they would definitely be seated with their families (unless they were teenagers and all friends or something, but I’m talking about young kids that would need supervision).

    Post # 7
    2076 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    At our wedding, the kids sat with their parents. At holiday events there was a kids table but at events outside of someone’s home, my extended family isn’t comfortable being separated from the kids, especially the ones under 10ish. Can’t say I blame them, so we accommodated it. 

    Post # 8
    8282 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Definitely put them with their family unless they’re like in their 20’s. 

    Post # 11
    677 posts
    Busy bee

    Kids sitting with their parents doesn’t always mean kids will be supervised. I’ve witnessed many times where parents will just lite the children run wild because there are other adults to supervise. If you keep all the children together (with a paid babysitter of some sort) they have less reason to need to get away from a table full of adults and run free. The last wedding I went to had 72 adults and 20 kids, who were seated with their parents. After they finished their chicken fingers, while the adults wwere between the pasta and veal, the kids went nuts running everywhere, including into tables and walls and almost knocking over the cake. Except for the little girl at our table, who didn’t know anyone (we were the coworker table) and whined to her father (the bride and groom’s manager at work) that she wanted to run around too. It was enough to convince me and SO into a kid’s table (we’re looking at 30 kids)

    Post # 12
    2419 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My experience of childrens’ tables is that there is likely to be a great deal more mayhem than there is when sat with their families. Sure, everyone knows those parents who refuse to control their children but sitting those kids at a special table isn’t going to improve behaviour. Unless you plan to employ Mary Poppins or a prison guard to supervise them.

    I had to sit at the occasional child’s table when I was a kid and I hated them. I was deeply resentful of the idea that I was considered not capable of holding sensible conversations with the adults or knowing how to behave. When I still was young enough not to care it would always have been more appropriate to be sat with my parents. 

    There’s lots of cute ideas on Pinterest. It doesn’t make them the best ideas though.

    Post # 13
    1340 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I don;t think any amount of solid parenting could fix the mayhem and chaos of a kids table at a wedding. Oh hell no! LOL

    We’re inviting kids because we want them involved, too. So off in a corner would suck!

    Post # 14
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m having the kids sit with their families, but also have a kids table that they can go to do activities if they choose.

    Post # 15
    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Depends on there age. We have the really young ones sitting next to their parents. The older ones are all sat next to each other, but on the same table as the parents. 

    Post # 16
    7997 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I went to a wedding last year where they had a few babysitters and a designated kids area and table. It worked quite well. It was what I would call an upscale backyard wedding lol. It had nice tables and was catered and very organized. The kids were still around… but in a different part of the backyard. They were just kept occupied so the adults would have some time to mingle. By the time 9-10 pm rolled around, the kids missed their parents so they started mingling w. the adults but no one minded. It actually worked quite well.

    The groom’s 2 young kids were involved in the wedding ceremony, and then went off to play with the other kids when it was done. A reception isn’t really a place for most kids IMO. Most of these kids were very young (like toddler to age 10).

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