(Closed) Kind of disappointed in my bridal shower

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

How many people came?  Maybe they’re saving the good stuff for the wedding? 

Post # 5
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Legallyblondiebride:  That sucks….. but maybe you’ll get some of the gifts for your wedding.  I was actually shocked at how much stuff we got at my shower – it seems everyone really went above and beyond and I would have never guessed that to happen.  I don’t know though – we didn’t register for china or anything – i’m getting my  great grandma’s china so we don’t need it – personally, i hate buying china or glasses for someone – it feels so weird to buy someone 1 place setting as a gift – especially when i know that people hardly ever use it – i’d much rather buy something practical from a registry.  Do you have other items for them to chose between?  Maybe pots and pans or a coffee maker, etc?   

Post # 6
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I usually give a smaller gift at the shower, then a bigger gift off the registry for the wedding.

Honestly, setting ANY expectations for what gifts you will receive is just setting yourself up for disappointment. I know you were registry stalking and already feeling disappointed the week before your shower. How about just being thankful for the items you do receive.

I’m not trying to be a jerk or say you’re being a jerk. I’m just saying, rather than let that disappoint you, why not take stock of all the really happy things that are coming with this wedding…the fact that 25 people took time out of their busy lives to come celebrate with you…AND spent their hard earned money on a gift for you! What a blessing!

Post # 7
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Legallyblondiebride:  lol, while you’re jealous of those who get tons of stuff off their registry at their showers, I’m jealous of girls who get to have bridal showers!  Hopefully you at least had a great time with loved ones, and at least you did get a couple of registry items.  There’s a chance that they’ll buy more of that stuff for the wedding.

Post # 9
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Try not to let it get you down. Reading about the amazing experiences of other bees can get you down quickly. Honestly, I try to avoid it to avoid envy. Some bees seem to have some very generous family and friends and very high expectations/results. That wasn’t the case for me either, so you’re not alone. We got mainly small gifts too. The only people who did something bigger were close family (and it was just a few). I know it’s hard because you’re supposed to be grateful, but it’s hard to not be disappointed. It still irks me a little sometimes, but I do my best to not think about it or read/hear about others’ awesome shower experiences (I know that’s bad, but it helps). Maybe that would help you too. 

Post # 10
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012 - Sundy House in Delray Beach, Florida

I bet you and your soon-to-be-hubby will get almost everything on you’re registry! Your guests are probably just waiting for the actual wedding! You’re going to be so pleasantly surprised at your wedding!!! =)

Post # 12
1755 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

As previously mentioned, a lot of people buy the larger things for the wedding itself rather than the shower.  You’ll find a lot of people may give you money or gift cards to places you’ve registered to get the things that you wanted.

Other than the gifts was the shower fun?  I’d try to focus on what you liked and enjoy that.  There’s a lot of time for people to gift and celebrate you.  Just enjoy and let it unfold. 

Post # 14
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I say be grateful for the party, while gifts are nice, how was the actual party as in spending time with your close friends and family who were there to support you? Focus on that. I also agree with others that people attending the wedding will more then likly buy stuff closer to the wedding.

Post # 15
842 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I got a lot of stuff at my shower, with the exception of my pot and pan set which is what I really wanted and needed.  So Fiance and I took a bunch of gifts back that were “nice to have’s” and exchanged them.  I know you’re supposed to feel grateful, and I do.  But when I’m begging people (including my best friend/MOH) to buy whatever they can afford of the pots and pans and he buys me an ice cream attachment to a kitchen aid mixer I didn’t get, it’s a little frustrating.

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