Post # 1
My DH started travelling for work during the summer-which sucks! Earlier in the summer the company hired a few intern to work with him. One was a girl (which is rare because he is an engineer and mostly works with men). Anyway, we were talking about intern Sara and I asked if she was attractive and DH said yes. So then as the summer went by and he was travelling with her I would joke around and say things like how’s the hot intern and stuff like that. He then told me she is not as hot as he thought she was. Towards the end of the summer til now they have not been working together as much.
DH has been scheduled to go away this week for a while now and I knew Sara was going with him, along with other people. So at the comapny holiday party on Friday night I was looking forward to meeting Sara and the other interns he works with because I heard so much about them for months. Well it turned out Sara is total bitch! I asked DH to introduce us, but she was talking to someone so when I saw her again I smiled and walked over to her (I know she knew who I was) and she kinda just stared at me and walked away. She was sitting at our table and I could just tell what a bitch she was. I asked DH about it and he said she has an attitude. But of of course she was smiling at DH and talking to him. Not that this matters, but he is 27 and she is 21.
So the whole point to this post is I am kind of jealous she is away with DH. I am home by myself missing him 🙁 Its stupid I know-I hate having feelings of jealousy. Thanks for reading this 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
Aw. I hate feeling jealous. 🙁 I also hate catty girls!
Post # 4
@vanilla44: she talked to him and not you?!?! im sure its nothing but keep your eyes open on that one i dont like it one bit. im sorry to say that but thats not good.
Post # 5
I would definitely be wary of her, even if she is a bitch, it looks like she might be a little jealous, too, in the, “You lucky bitch,” way.
Post # 6
Now. Playing Devils Advocate here, perhaps she’s just shy. I myself am very quiet around people I don’t know, socially awkward you may say, but once I warm up to a person I’m more friendly and outgoing. It’s possible she just didn’t know who you where and wasn’t sure how to talk to you but since she’s worked with your hubby for so long she can talk to him much easier. There may be other reasons for her attitude other then she likes your husband in a way that you could be jealous over.
Post # 7
@HisNightOwl2014: and @Chaoslight: I am definitly keeping my eyes on her. I trust DH completely, but I dont know about her.
@Peach_Cobbler: When I asked my DH about why she seemed rude to me he said she has an attitude and a bitchy personality. I dont think she is shy because I saw the way she was towards other people. I dont necessarily think she likes my DH, but I just did not get a good first impression from her and I miss my DH!
Post # 8
@vanilla44: I totally understand your feeling. DH owns his own business and one of his departments comprises of not one, but two pretty girls!! He also travels with them (and other male employees) to a trade show once a year. At the end of the day, you trust your DH and that’s the most important! But I know how you feel: I feel silly for being jealous because I trust my DH but I can’t help it!
Post # 9
@Petite_Fraise: Not to be mean to the girl, but she isnt “hot” like I was picturing her. DH said at first he thought she was attractive but when he got to know her and saw her more he didnt think so. When I saw her I was surprised because I thought DH might just being she isnt hot to make me feel better but she is average looking. Maybe if she wasnt so bitchy she would be more attractive!
Post # 10
Ok, so FI is an engineer at a cool company. I know there are a lot of engineers on the board, and they are lovely, but I have found that engineers don’t have the best social skills and female engineers have had to put up with a ton of shit to get where they are, so they lack sweetness. A hard edge + lack of social skills may come off as off putting, but I’m sure it wasn’t her intent. I wouldn’t be worried.
Post # 11
@Pollywog: My DH is an engineer also and I’ve noticed the same sort of gruff/tough quality in a couple of his female engineer colleagues, so maybe you’re right and it goes with the territory. It’s not the easiest job in the world, either, so I’m sure that doesn’t help, along with being a minority in the field, as a woman.
@vanilla44: ((HUGS)) I’m so sorry you’re missing your DH, I know it sucks having to be apart. I wouldn’t read too much into the intern’s attitude, most likely it has nothing to do with you or your DH.
Post # 12
Sweetie, your present made her jealous because he chose you. She knows you are his type and not matter what she tries she will never measure up to you and she know it. You have nothing to be jealous about she is working and your husband has given you a lifestyle she wishes she had.
Post # 13
If anything, I would be HAPPY to find out she is a bitch because she obviously has made herself much less attractive to those who know her ~ that is reason to feel less jealous about her, imo. I know some people lack social skills but it sounds like she was outright rude to you.
Post # 14
I work with almost all men and there is definitely a tougher side of me that has to come out when working with them.
Not to come across as rude, but when you said you “smiled” at her, was that before or after you gave the up-and-down and stink eye? C’mon, be honest! Catty behavior is a two way street and she might have picked up the vibes from you too.
Either way, at least you met her and can now put a face to the name. It’s not worth your effort to be upset over it, especially as they are traveling in a group.
Post # 15
I don’t blame you for feeling jealous at all. It’s natural and I would feel the same way. My FI is an engineer as well so he doesn’t work with many women either. But when this new girl started around his age and he was training her I was super jealous and idk why. He wanted me, he loved me and to be honest she wasn’t that attractive. But it was just the thought of him spending 8-9 hours a day with another woman that made me insecure. It’s natural. But, I wouldn’t worry about it! And if at all possible keep how your jealousy a secret to him and vent to us bees 🙂
Post # 16
@PinkPinstripes: I did not even know the girl sitting on the other side of our table was Sara. After about 15 minutes I realized who she was and thats when I asked DH to introduce me. When I smiled at her it was totally genuine and no stink eye involved earlier in the night!
@BLynn: Yes good point about keeping to myself. I told DH I was jealous and he told me I was crazy. I then made a a kinda joke about him being out to dinner with her and he ignored it!
Thanks everyone else for the replies 🙂