Kind of missing my girlfriends..

posted 3 years ago in Christian
Post # 3
10886 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through all of this. 

Sadly, the truth is that there are dysfunctional and unhealthy relationships within The Church as well as outside of it. It sounds as if that was the case with some of the individuals. It’s one thing for a couple to behave inappropriately toward each other in public (either in or outside of a church environment), but it’s another thing entirely for people to suggest that you not pursue your relationship on the grounds that it is being insensitive to the feelings of others who have nothing whatsoever to do with your relationship.

The best counsel I can provide is that you continue to surrender your hurt to the Lord and ask Him to take away any negative feelings that you may have toward this pastor and these young ladies and that you willingly choose to forgive them for anything and everything they may have done that was or is hurtful to you.  Ask God to grant you compassion toward them and to continue to bring other, Godly girlfriends into your life.


Post # 5
7025 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@lamlamk:  Your church friends were engaging in silly high school stuff. So just because one girl can’t date this particular guy without her dad’s approval, everyone else has to stay single out of solidarity??? That’s crazy!

Similarly your non-Christian friend was being very judgemental not being in your wedding.

All I can is you’ve done nothing wrong (from what you’ve told here) so there’s nothing to be ashamed of or guilty about.

Maybe some of those girls will change now that (as far as I can tell from your post) their husbands/fiances/boyfriends are still friends with your husband. Either way, I wish you the best in your new church and I’m sure you’ll make new friends. It’s only been a few months.

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