- 6 years ago
Okay, so I have a half-question, half-statement for you girls out there. I need advice and I hope I’m posting this in the right section.
My BF and I have been together 7 months, and have enjoyed sexual intercourse during this time period. However, before I met him (with the other guys I’ve had sex with) the sex was EXCRUCIATING. I mean, it hurt to the point where I’d cry and lay curled up in the fetal position for 2-3 hours afterwards because it felt like someone was stabbing me repeatedly with a knife. This had nothing to do with losing my virginity, because I’d always thought it just hurt the first time.
Let me explain. I’ve been with 5 guys, including my SO now, and with 4 of those 5 guys, sex was awful. It could be because they were ALL virgins, and didn’t know what the heck they were doing (lol), but I highly doubt it. Now, I only had sex with those guys around 2-5 times each, spaced out between the people. Each time, it hurt the ENTIRITY of the sexual intercourse, and hurt for a week or so after. Literally, I thought I was dying.
With my BF now, it never hurt. It was quite amazing, actually. Until the other night. I was trying not to let BF notice, but he saw the expression on my face and immediately stopped. He knows about my previous experiences, and how badly it hurt…so he quit and we haven’t had sex since, and frankly, I’m a little scared to. That’s not fair to him, but I’m terrified.
I have endometriosis, and get frequent UTI’s as well. It sucks, and it makes me sad to think about, and I know sex can be painful because of my condition. I just kind of want to know that I’m not alone here. Any kind of penetration used to hurt, no matter what kind, finger, penis, etc…whatever it was, it would always be unbearable.
I don’t WANT to stop having sex with my SO now, because I love him, and he loves me, and that’s a way to express love. But I’m scared of the pain, because it really, really, hurts.
I’ve been to my OB/GYN, and all he did was prescribe meds for pain. But it doesn’t stop the pain during sex.
Advice, please? 🙁 I thought the pain had just stopped or something, I didn’t know how….but I guess it’s back again with a vengeance. I’m so upset. :/