Post # 1
The venue makes you pay an extra $995 to have the ceremony somewhere other than the reception place you’re choosing. I didnt care about this at first, because its a pretty big room and they assured me that there would be plenty of extra room with 60-70 people there for a ceremony. But they’ve been posting more pictures on their facebook of the room we chose all set up with tables. There is NOT enough room. At all.
This set up has maybe 2 more tables than we would be using. As you can see, there would be absolutely no extra room. There wouldnt be enough room for my dad to walk me down the aisle. There wouldnt be anywhere for us to stand.
They do have ceremonies on the front porch.
So I asked them if since we already paid for the room, if we’d be able to do the ceremony on the porch. The woman told me that we’d be charged another $995 for it (we’ve already paid 1355) because of the labor of setting up the chairs and they’d have to cancel any tours so they wouldnt get money. Well, their touring hours end at 4, our ceremony wouldnt be till 5 or 5:30 and we dont NEED chairs. It will be a short ceremony. They can stand for 10 minutes. But they havent wrote back.
Another reason I dont want to do the ceremony in the same room is because we’re having a buffet and not having a cocktail hour. The buffet room is directly beside of the hall, so either the food would have to be there while the ceremony is going on, or they’d be setting it up while the guests are in the room. Neither is an option that I like. If we have the ceremony on the porch, then they could be setting it up during that and nobody would even have to see them.
Another option for the ceremony is a park. The house is directly beside of one. Its not the prettiest park and it wouldnt be private (but neither would the porch) but it would be free. We could have a little set up over there and just walk over to the house (which would be as quick as crossing the street.)
Post # 4
What are you looking for input on? Maybe we can help if the question’s clear 🙂
Looking at your first picture – the venue I chose does do ceremonies in the same space as the reception, but they remove tables and just organize the chairs in aisles. After the ceremony they set up the tables for you (while guests are having a drink). Maybe your venue could do that too?
Post # 5
@essiesstyle: XD I was so frustrated I didnt even realize that I didnt ask what I wanted input on. Mostly just curious as to what others would do in this situation.
I really wish that that was an option. But unfortunately theres nowhere for the guests to go while that would be set up. The house is off limits except for tours, and that would cost $20 more pp, and only a handful of people would be able to tour at a time.
Post # 6
In my area, ceremony fees start at $2,000…it’s kinda unavoidable.
If you’re not happy with paying that ceremony fee, they might do a turnover (what the previous bride suggested). However, it sounds like they might charge you a fee for cocktail hour venue too. Also, be aware that means they have only ONE HOUR MAX to reset–and that includes your centerpieces and decor. Turnovers can get tricky.
Post # 7
I’ve been to weddings where the ceremony and reception took place in the same room with the tables and chairs set for the reception. The bridal party and the bride walks through all the tables to the front of the reception area. This is not ideal but I don’t blame the bride for it. I think it’s also problematic to turn a room around in an hour during cocktail hour, especially since the guests do not have a place to go during this. An hour goes by really quickly. I think it took my venue over 6 hours to set up my reception room and I had the venue employees, the tablecloth rental company, several florists, uplighting, piping, DJ, photographer…all there to set up.
I didn’t want to have a ceremony at a different location, several hours before the reception. I don’t like having to wait 4-6 hours between ceremony and reception so I paid an additional ceremony fee to the venue. I believe it was about $2,500 and included a different set of chairs and the chuppah. Even if I were to have a ceremony elsewhere, I would still be paying something.
Post # 8
I dont understand why your venue charges money for you to hold your ceremony elsewhere? This is the first time I have ever heard of a venue doing this.
I would see if they would be able to turnover the room your reception is, if not the porch is a good idea as well. I would not pay $995 to have some chairs set up, but I would also have a few chairs set up for any elderly guests who arent able to stand very long.
Post # 9
I’d pay the 1k to have the ceremony on the front steps.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Id go to the park and make it pretty. Just make sure theres no license that says you cant do that
Post # 11
I would pay the extra money and use the porch – it’s not ideal to pay more money, but your picturse will be gorgeous.
Also, sometimes for parks you still need to rent the shelter or what not, which could range from $25 – $200.. and your pictures there wouldn’t be all that fabulous.
Post # 12
@CelticBeachBride: Read above your post, we are not having a cocktail hour. Theres no space (besides the hall) to have one.
@TorontoBride2be: I’ve seen a couple of venues that charged you extra for different spots. But those were more understandable. Like if you were renting two seperate halls or a hall and the balcony type things. I do think its silly to charge that much extra for standing on a porch. We wont have any elderly people there, so thats not a concern.
Post # 13
@allyfally: Would they be setting up any sound equipment? Would their employees be doing anything at all?
We had to pay $750.00 to have the ceremony in one location on the property and a seperate fee for the reception. As you said it is pretty common however they did set up chairs, decor and a sound system.
IF they are truly doing absolutely nothing I would discuss that fact with them. Tell them you are basically being asked to pay to stand in a designated location without them lifting a finger and see how they respond.
Post # 14
@Treejewel19: Well they’re only ran by volunteers. So they dont really have workers. The only official worker that I’m aware of is the custodian. He’ll be in charge of placing the tables and chairs and taking care of the clean up.
As for sound, what do you mean? Surely the DJ takes care of that?
Post # 15
@allyfally: Yes the DJ did take care of that but they had to do something with regards to it so it was mentioned in the package. Probably make sure the plugs worked, big deal!
Post # 16
Negotiate the front porch. Tell them that you want half the chairs set up for half the price. Like it or not, you are using their space and they want money for it. Or if you want the free option (in the same room), ask them exactly where everything would be set up because it doesn’t look like there’s room for 2 people (and 1 with a big white dress) to walk down at the same time or do the vows.