(Closed) Kinda 'meh' on officiant…

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Edelweiss:  I would ask him for refrences from other couples he officiated for, and ask their opinions.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Could you skype with him?  At least that way you could see him and get a feel for how he communicates.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Might this be a case of you viewing this as a vendor-customer interaction while he views it as something else?

I don’t know, because maybe it very much is a vendor-customer thing if this person makes a big part of their livelihood as a wedding officiant. If this is a side activity for the person, though, or if it’s a justice of the peace or a clergy person, then I can definitely understand them not feeling the need to sell themselves and their services, and not having a ready answer to “what is your style and approach to weddings” – they are not performers, and officiating weddings is just one of their many responsibilities. It could also be that since you are so far away they are not certain whether you are a “serious” customer … again, just speculating.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

My advice go with your instincts. If you don’t feel that this person is the right one then look for someone else. I always tell the brides and grooms I communicate with that if they are not comfortable with me then I am the wrong Officiant for them. 

So email other officiants, read reviews and see if you can find someone that make you feel comfortable. Because everyone should have a kind, relaxing and comforting person to be officiating their ceremony. You should feel like they are a new friend that you just “clicked” with, in my opinion. So go with your instincts. 

On a side note: I personally do not have any videos, but I do have reviews. I admit I would hate to give a reference to anyone. I take the privacy of the couples I work with seriously.

One more thing, the right Officiant will not mind staying up to Skype with you/ or take a call from you. They will find it a wonderful experience to be working with you.

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