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Could you mention doing one to the GM? Suggest they go for a golf day or something. If they seem hesitant, you could offer to make the reservations maybe?
that really stinks! are his groomsmen local?
I bet we could find 25 DC SOs and make them throw him the most awkward man-date ever ;)
FH is just going golfing with 4 friends! They are staying the night at course he normally would never play at because its $$$$$. He came up with the idea himself.
I'm sure if he wanted to do something he would have told them that. Maybe he doesn't want one or doesn't care. I'd ask him first.
@Sunshine23: thats not a bad idea - i dont know if its cuz no one wants to plan it or what.
@daydreamwanderer: half are local and half are away - but hes got tons of guy friends in town - maybe they think the best man should organize it... but his DAD is his best man....
I am thinking i might talk to one of the GM with like a proposal with stuff written out so if he liked it he could just take it and run with it - something like an afternoon of golf at the local club, then pool and beers at his fav bar for the rest of the night?
does that sound cool?
My family and I were going to- do what makes you and FI happy. No shame, it is a great idea.
My FI didn't have a bachelor party because his friends are so unorganized...He didn't want a stripper and I guess they couldn't think of anything else, so they planned nothing. They did however call him the night before,"kidnapped" him from our hotel and got him drunk, because everyone had flown in or drove for the wedding and was staying at a nearby hotel. I wasn't happy about the timing because we had planned to spend the night together, but glad that he got to do something fun. Maybe you can hint at his friends to do the same?
@camrie: and i get the feeling that he wants one - because he sounded sad when i asked him if he was having one earlier, and when i was telling him about my bachelorette/shower he looked so pitiful.
hes the kind of guy who doesnt ask for stuff from his friends though... so i doubt he would have brought it up with them if he wanted it.
@daydreamwanderer: and im totally giggling at the DC SO man-date. i have visions of "I LOVE YOU MAN" in my head LMAO
@spaganya: Well maybe see if you can talk to the best man about it. It's not like they have to "plan" anything, really they could just go out to dinner and then out to a bar afterwards.
@camrie: his best man is his dad - who is in another state. and i dont know if his dad would even want to participate in it let alone throw one....
@spaganya: J's friends always go kayaking (and often overnight camping) for bachelor parties. For his there wasn't time to overnight (we were only in Michigan a week and had appointments with vendors or family every day), so they kayaked, mini golfed and then played poker and drank beer and ate brownies that my MOH (BM's wife) made. :) My bachelorette was the same night, so it worked out pretty well for every (except maybe my poor overworked MOH... who basically planned both parties, haha)
@daydreamwanderer: not a bad idea. wonder if i can hint to his GM when my bridal shower/bachelorette is and they can "keep him company" and take him out or something. *sigh*
FI almost didn't have one. There was a lot of family drama and his best man who is his brother wasn't talking to him and my brother totally dropped the ball so I actually mentioned it to a couple of his buddies. They ended up going to gold, lunch, went back to someone's house for beers, and then to the strip club. I was glad that he did something.
my FH friends are trying to convince him to do something he really isnt interested in... so i'm taking him on a weekend trip to Orlando to check out hollywood horror nights.
hes a huge horror fan, and hes way more interested in this then what they were discussing.
My boyfriend was in one of our very good friends weddings last year and it was just him and the grooms dad in the wedding party. The grooms dad didnt know where to begin planning and our friends future wife was so worried that he wasnt going to have a special day with his friends....so I took over. My boyfriend didnt want to step on the dads toes and the dad had not planned a party in years. I would suggest getting in touch with his dad first and asking if he had anything planned. Talk to one of you FH friends and start planning something with him, I am sure his friends would be willing to jump in and help if they knew his dad was out of town and had nothing planned.
Men can be bad planners so his friends may just need a little shove in the right direction from you. Dont be afraid to jump right in....he will love that you had his back.
My FI didn't have one organized and so I called a friend of his up a couple of weeks before I went away for my bachelorette. He was happy to organize a dinner and night on the town. My FI initially was not into the idea but ended up having a blast.
And, yes, they went to a strip club...but he says that followed my rule of not doing anything that he'd be embarrased by if I were there with him :)
We aren't having a wedding party - so that was one of the things that was getting left out - I talked to FI and he ended up wanting a fishing or camping party. So, I talked to one of the boys (it's one of my friend's husbands) who I knew would be game to throw it and I asked if he could coordinate it.
Honestly - I don't see an issue with you planning most of it - but there should be at least one responsible guy in attendance that can be the main point person (for money, general instructions/directions, etc)
If you know he wants a bachelor party, I'd contact the GM and have them plan something. Give them suggestions (golf, etc if that's what your FH wants) and give the GM email addresses of your FHs friends who'd be invited.
On a side note, guys are bad planners. My FHs bachelor party is in less than a month and the Best Man just sent the golf e-mail today. My bachelorette party has been in the works for weeks already! I think that's just the difference between guys and girls.
But, yes, talk to the GM, and have them plan SOMETHING. Your guy will really appreciate it! Good luck!
thanks girls for all the suggestions - i talked to one of the GM and he JUST talked to FH this morning about a bachelor party. apparently it was kinda what i said that they thought the BM did it, and since it was the dad, they didnt realize he wasnt planning anything - so when he foudn that out yesterday he stepped up!
so WTG groomsman! :)
he gets a special gift or extra cake or something! lol
I'm glad it worked out! My DH ended up not having one and I wish I had gotten onto his best man and groomsmen about it :( But they are all very low-key so I don't think it was a big deal.
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has anyone ever thrown a bachelor party for their FH?
I was asking around to his friends to see if they are doing a bachelor party for him and it seems like they arent.
I know it would mean a lot to him, and im kinda sad hes not getting one.It wouldnt be a rowdy one, probably like a golf day or something, but i think he should get SOMETHING.