(Closed) kinda sad he NEVER calls me any pet name…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I like cheesy pet names. I think they’re cute

Post # 4
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Mr. 99 isn’t a pet name kind of guy either, it never bothered me because everyone else has pet names for me so it makes him using my name special…and I just love the way he says it, like it’s tastes good or something.

Post # 5
986 posts
Busy bee

Mr. O uses pet names, but I don’t have a specific nickname. Which used to drive me UP THE WALL because I’m huge on nicknames, haha. But after a couple years, I’ve just accepted that it isn’t going to happen. Oh well!

Post # 6
2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Kate0558:  Fiance uses pet names but I don’t. I never have, it just doesn’t flow with me. It doesn’t change the way I feel though (and is not a reflection of how much I love someone)

Post # 7
9629 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Darling Husband mainly calls me “baby” and I call him “love.” 

We have code names for each other, too.  Come to think of it, most of the things we say to each other nobody else would understand, we’ve practically invented our own language.  Someone listening to us would think we’re nuts. 

Post # 8
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

He calls me a shortened version of my 2nd first name (weird, I know) — so it’s not exactly a pet name, more like a nickname. I call him a non-cutesy pet name most of the time.

We do call each other “baby,” though.


Some people just don’t do pet names because they sound weird or feel off. I don’t think it has anything to do with love.

I think the way you feel about a pet name is how I feel about him calling me by my actual name. The grass is always greener! If it’s something that is super important to you, maybe you can ask him if he can use some more “affectionate” names with you. But really, I just think you need to look at it a bit differently, and not see this as you not being special.

Post # 9
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Sunfire:  I think we have our own language too!

SO doesn’t really have any “pet names” for me per se, but he does call me a screwy version of my actual name. It’s basically his pet name for me. Most of the time I call him Love.

Post # 10
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

My man was the same till a couple of months ago when we watched a movie with a character called Puddinghead. He thought this was hilarious and wanted me to start using it as a nickname, so I agreed. But only if he started calling me “Honey”. So I won that one.

Am afraid I have no other advice for you 🙁

Post # 11
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think you need to get over it. That said figure out a different way that he makes you feel special and advise him that he should continue to pay attention to that particular thing so that you feel loved and he’s not forced to say/ do something that isn’t comfortable to him.

Post # 12
1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve never called people by pet names for the same reason. I just feel kind of ridiculous saying them. Luckily it isn’t an issue for my fiance, because I wouldn’t know what to do.

I don’t think you should make an issue out of it, because what’s the point? It’s absolutely no measure of how he feels about you. “Babe” could be anybody. But you’re Kate, the person he loves. 

Post # 13
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Some people just don’t “do” pet names.  It doesn’t mean he cares for you any less.

Honestly, if he doesn’t “do” pet names, it probably feels fake for him if he were to call you one.

Post # 14
1038 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs.KMM:  Exactly.



In the almost 5 years I have been with my now husband, he has never called me a pet name.  I would get suspicious actually if he started to, like he had done something wrong, lol. 

Post # 15
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would feel sad too if my Fiance did not call me pet names. It actually weirds me out when he calls me by my first name. We NEVER call eachother by our first names. Even when i’m mad… its a stern HONEY!

Post # 16
18 posts

@Kate0558:  Same here – it bugs me sometimes, but it’s one of the few things that lately I seem to be able to tolerate!

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