Post # 1
My wedding is in 12 days. I’m not your typical jittery bride to be running around like a mad woman. I am pretty calm, even though there are still things to get done. Anyway, my feelings towards my wedding are kind of melencholy. To be honest, I am down right depressed. I know, I know, this is the happiest time in my life. I am so in love with my fiance and so sure about marriage. I just wish I did this differently. I wish we were having a smaller wedding or that we just eloped. I know people keep telling me that I would regret it in the long run and deep down I think I would. What I am really nervous about is my family. They embarrass me and I know it’s wrong. We’ve been having some drama these past few days. I don’t want this. I want to be so happy and so excited and I’m not. I feel like something is wrong with me and I want someone who understands to tell me it will be okay. I don’t know how to deal. I could really use a friend.
Post # 3
@seanmarie: If you are currently having family drama it makes sense that you are depressed/worried/melancholy about an upcoming event that is going to have all your family (and his) together in one place. Don’t add complication to your feelings by feeling like your feelings aren’t right. Its okay to be this way before a family event. Once you realize its ok then you don’t have to feel bad for feeling bad, you know? Then you can take control of your situation– you ARE happy and excited you just are nervous about family stuff. So focus on the good parts. Remember that you can’t control your family and you are not responsible for their thoughts/actions etc. You CAN have a good time even if family is being difficult… let it be like water off a ducks back. You are starting a new stage of your life. This day is going to be very important to people who don’t exisit yet (read your children) and the family you are creating will be your new focus. Not everyone is going to be able to deal with that change well, but change happens without permission and eventually everyone has to adapt to it. And let me tell you what I told a recent bride… If you are married at the end of the day then you had a successful wedding, none of that other stuff matters. So smile and focus on your new life ahead of you. Hope this helps! I worry about family too! So I know how it goes.
Post # 5
Great advice JaneDomani! I think many of us need to hear that. I can completely relate to you seanmarie. My FI’s and my families are literally from two different worlds, so I am extremely nervous about the wedding. But as my FI says, they are grown people and we do not control their actions. Plus, in the end this day is about you and your husband, so focus on creating great memories for the two of you despite what is going on around you.
Enjoy your day! Let us know how it goes and of course share a picture. 🙂