(Closed) Know any funny/personable/charismatic officiants in NJ?

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but:

1. You cannot be maried at the reception hall.  You must be married in a Catholic church to have a valid Catholic wedding.

2. You can’t change the ceremony to be light-hearted.  There are two options: Nuptial Mass or Rite of Marriage without Mass, and both are very specific in terms of what’s involved.  The only thing the officiant can change is the homily.  The Rite is summarized here:  http://foryourmarriage.org/rite-for-celebrating-marriage-outside-of-mass/

Sorry.

 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@CoffeeHound: True, you can’t change the order of the mass, but Nuptial masses can be very light hearted! 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@jedeve:  I suppose you could make it more light hearted with contemporary music and different readings.  But it’s still going to be a Mass.  There won’t be any dancing down the aisle to Chris Brown. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@giaspo: Catholic priests won’t perform marriages outside of the Rite of Marriage, so you probably won’t be able to find a Priest who will do it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I just looked up John Michael O’Sullivan.  He’s apparently not a priest with the facility to marry, but continues to do so.  If he marries you, your marriage will be invalid in the eyes of the Church and you will not be able to receive communion – you’ll need another wedding (a convalidation) to rectify the situation.

Some priests are ordained then leave the church.  They then claimed that “once a priest, always a priest…” and marry in the name of the Catholic Church.  However, this is not valid and needs to be avoided at all cost (failure to do so separates you from the Church).

The confusion that comes in is that once a person is ordained, that person can never be unordained (much like a baptized person can never be unbaptized).  However, simply being ordained does not make you a priest.  In addition to being ordained, you must be granted authority to be a member of the clergy by a bishop.  If you are not given that authority, you are not a priest and cannot witness marriages, confect the Eucharist, etc any more than the average person on the street.

Something I would also be concerned about is if a “priest” is not considered to be a priest by the Catholic Church, is that person still legally able to witness weddings? 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

You will not find a Catholic priest willing to marry outside of the Church.  Doing so would be grounds for defrocking the priest (dismissing him from the clerical state).  What you can sometimes find are people who pretend to be priests that are willing to marry you.

But, let me caution you, once again, that doing so will separate you from the Catholic faith and be a grave situation.  Your marriage will be invalid. 

You might really want to instead consider contacting an actual Catholic priest and requesting a Dispensation from Canonical Form to be married outside of a Church.  That would make the wedding valid and still allow you to be married at the reception hall.  Otherwise, you’re better off contacting a non-denominational minister or a civil officiant.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@giaspo: Good luck with your fiance!!! He really ought to be willing to work with you on this given how important it is to your future. If it helps, tell him that Catholic-lite ceremonies that use these fakey priests are pretty offensive to people who really treasure their faith heritage. These guys base their business off an association with a church to which they DO NOT BELONG. They aren’t Catholic so they certainly can’t do a Catholic wedding!

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