Post # 1
Last night, after a bad convo with recently divorced uncle, my husband was upset and said “I just want to hang out with happily married people like me!” I know his uncle needs him, but now he talks about hooking up with single girls and dating sites. Things that my DH doesnt care to hear. but it got us both thinking. We have no happily married friends! not any more. they are all divorced or the few that are have weird problems. thats when i realized we should prob get some. how idk? I think i just realized we are the only happy couple out of all our single and divorced friends. how did that happen?? we dont even have couple friends really. Last year we had great couple friends, who have since broke up…. im 27 and he is 31. its not like we are super young.
how old are you guys? how long have you been married? and do you guys hang out with other happily married friends? Did it take a while to find some or did it seem all your friends were getting married at the same time?
Post # 3
My DH and I are 25/26 and have been married for 3 months (but lived together for 3 years). We have two couples we hang out with alot – one has been happily married for 4 years, and the other are not married (they say they don’t plan to ever) but have been living together for more than 5 years, and are also very happy together.
A few couples we know broke up just before our wedding, but in each case there was only one member of the couple that I was really close with, so now we are waiting for them to meet someone new.
Post # 4
Yes, and I think it is super important. There is an idea that divorce is contagious – it makes married people think about it themselves, and when you hang out with someone in a bad relationship the conversations can easily turn really negative and leave you thinking poorly of your own spouse.
Our married friends were part of our friend group when we were dating. I know it is totally hard to make new friends as an adult. Maybe look for some couple geared activities and see if you meet new people that way?
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Yikes! Yeah, about 90% of our friends are in happy marriages or long-term relationships, and the other 10% are single but not divorced. We’re 31 and 33. I’m not sure WHY this is… I think most of our friends are just really cool chill people who have found their life partner. I’m sorry your friends have had a rough go of it 🙁
Post # 6
Everyone I know is happily married (at least that’s how they act lol)! I’m 20 and all our family and friends got married around 21-23 and I do not know one person who has gotten divorced!
Post # 7
My Husband and I are 30 and 31 we have been married just over 9 months and have been together for 3 years. Most of our friends arent married yet but they are in serious longterm relationships that are leading to marriage I’m sure! We hang out alot with our couples friends and have games nights and dinners. We only have a few couples that are married as we are one of the first out of our immediate circle of friends to get married. It’s nice to hang out with other couples that are happy like us! 🙂
Post # 8
We are both 26 and our friends are just starting to get married, actually! We have one friend couple that have been married for 3 years, one that just got married last summer, and have a bunch of just-engaged and long term relationship couples. I wouldn’t know how to go out and get new ones though haha! All of our friends have been our friends for ages.
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
I’m 27, my husband is 30, and all of our friends seem to be really happily married! I know they wouldn’t project negativity, but I only know a couple couples who have gotten divorced, and we’re lucky that all our close friend group seem to have really solid marriages. It’s awesome!
Post # 10
We have many friends who are within a decade of us (both older and younger) who have been happily married for 8+ years. They’re always the friends who gave me that bit of inspiration that there was hope yet for this zany gal.
Post # 11
I’d say the majority of our married friends are happy. They all have their issues in their relationships, as do we, but they seem to be happy. We’re in our early 30s and have been married for 1.5 years. Most of our friends have as well. In fact the only couple I can think of off hand that I would call unhappy and a bad match, are the ones that got married really young.
Post # 12
@souza_2005: We are 30/31 and are happily married and have a few happily married friends. We have been married for a year and a half.
Out of our close friends many of them are engaged or in long term relationships on their way to marriage. With my old group of friends I was behind the game with marriage and kids but with our new group of friends from the past couple of years we seem to be the trendsetters for marriage and kids. Its interesting how things change.
Post # 13
Even though we’re not married YET we’re close! MOH and her H are happily married and so are a couple of our other friends. We see MOH+H a lot but the other couple live all the way on the west coast. Waaa! I miss them. I can’t wait til they come in for the wedding. Those are our closest married friends.
We’ve been together longer than all of them and have been living together for 4 years. Close enough. Right? Right.
Post # 14
We have a lot of couple friends that we are not super close with, they appear happy on the outside, but I guess one will never know, but I will just believe that most of them are happy. Most of them are older than me (I’m 29).
And then, I have 2 close friends that are my age, both of them were considering divorce! One was a trooper and came to my wedding even amidst her troubles. The other one started seeing somebody and they were doing better, and then she got pregnant…
Post # 15
@souza_2005: I wonder if it has to do with the length of relationships. My friends in happy relationships aren’t out there looking for new friends since they’re overbooked and looking to relax with couple time. Whereas my single friends have more of a drive to go out and make new friends. More of my newer friends are single, while my older friends have settled down and coupled up.
Post # 16
@nadnuk: I love your profile picture, you guys look so happy and your FI looks kind of like Robert Downey Jr. (who I love) :).