- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I love my sister in law and my brother……at least I’m going to keep telling myself that for the next eight months.
I originally was not going to have her as a bridesmaid, however I did want my brother to be a part of my wedding and I was in theirs and I felt slightly obligated to have her in ours. FI tolerates her, she is over protective of me like no one’s business. My mom loves her and honestly I do too because she has been part of our family for so long, but damn she is really irritating me.
First, I’m not having a MOH, I don’t want one and at this point in my life I want my FI daughter by my side. I made that choice and I’m sticking to it.
I think she was annoyed that I didn’t pick her. Oh well. Then she started telling me what she is going to wear, how I need to do my centerpieces and how I cannot rely on my other girls to help out. One is my older cousin and one is me and FI’s really close friend……why would they not help out?? Whatever, she hardly knows them.
I didn’t take anyone but my mother in law and my mom when I tried on dresses. I am pretty self-con about my appearance but I knew I felt comfortable in front of just them and I could trust them to be honest and it was actually on a whim that we went. SIL was ticked I didn’t take anyone else (mind you, I was not present when she got hers either, she ordered it online and I did not even see it until the day of the wedding, not that I really care, she liked it and it’s what she wanted)
She tells my mom that I am constantly changing my mind about details in the wedding…….I asked my mother what exactly and all of the things she told me weren’t even true and I had not even discussed with her.
Last night I was looking at a picture of Kelly Clarkson’s dress and as she was looking over my shoulder she said what are you looking at, I told her KC dress, it’s really pretty and you know what her response was….”Well, MrsFarm YOU ALREADY HAVE ONE, WHY ARE YOU LOOKING?”
WTH? I can’t look because I’ve already bought one.
I have constant advice from her on how to plan my wedding, my relationship with FI, my friends, how to deal with FI daughter (which mind you is just fine now, it took a long time to build a realtionship but we are in a good place now) and I’m good with her mom too. Basically, any time we talk or see each other, which mind you I keep to a minimum I’m being told how to live my life.
Now granted we were friends for a while but we live very different lives now and she is immature and tries to be a hard ass all the time and her and my brother are anti children, anti crowds, anti everything unless it benefits them, which is fine FOR THEM, I am all about my family, being with people and giving more than I will ever get back, and I am okay with that, that is how I chose to be, I like helping and giving to others.
I’ve confided in my mom a few times about this and she just says take SIL with a grain of salt but DAMN! The know it all, I’m better than everyone attitude and you need to do what I say attitude and wanting my undivided attention is really, really, really getting to me!
Thanks for letting me rant Bees!
Any of you have people like this in your wedding? What are you doing to maintain the peace and not take their head off?