Knowing it's coming and having a bit of a meltdown…

posted 3 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My fiancé and I had previously discussed marriage. I knew it was coming, I didn’t have a solid when. But when he left  the room oddly one night, I knew that it was to come back and propose. 


I still bawled like a baby.


Even though you know when, etc.. It does nothing to prepare you for that actual feeling of “ohmygod this is REAL, we are REALLY getting married, he REALLY wants to spend his life with me!”


So relax!

Post # 5
1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@thenaturalginger:  girl he probably wanta to propose on your vacation!! Relax, it’ll haopen:)

Post # 6
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Camp Hope

My ring was delivered today. He let me try it on and I know where it is tucked away. We are getting married April 4th 2015 on our 8 year anniversary. We ware going on a cruise to Hawaii for our honeymoon. We are taking a trip to Atlanta at the end of September where he will most likely propose. We have the wedding party, colors, theme, favors all decided on. My point is… Although I know 99.9% of what is going on, I don’t know how he will propose. I don’t know what he will say. I don’t know exactly where he will propose at. Although you know a lot, there is still so much you don’t know. You’re not crazy for thinking you ruined it but you really didn’t. Relax and enjoy this time. You will be engaged before you know it. 

Post # 7
253 posts
Helper bee

@thenaturalginger:  OMG LOL. The way you feel.. that is exactly why every girl cries hysterically.. (well not every).. but you know what I mean.. this is why most girls hysterically cry when the men finally propose..


It is a combination of relief, and the pressure off of you, plus happiness LOL


At least you have a wedding date!!!!!! and a vacation planned!!!!! Just have fun!

Post # 8
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I feel similarly about the wait. We’ve always talked about marriage- after three months of dating he told me he had started looking at rings, but I knew then it wasn’t serious looking…just getting an idea of cost, etc.  I’ve always wanted to be very…uninvolved and completely blindsided that it’s coming, but lately he’s mentioned some things that make it seem pretty clear it’s coming soon. I find myself now always wondering when it’s going to happen, because I’m always sort of expecting it. I’m trying to just be laid back but now knowing I won’t be caught offguard by the proposal has me always thinking about what I’ll say and if I’ll cry.

I just keep trying to remind myself that there are few really amazing surprises in life when you’re an adult; however, this is one of them. Even though I know it’s likely coming soon, it doesn’t change the fact that the exact when is a surprise and what he says is a complete surprise, too. Those surprises will make this suspense and stress worth it. Smile

Post # 9
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@thenaturalginger:  i knew my proposal was one of two weekends in february 2013.  leading up to it, i was nervous.  even though i knew i would say yes and know i am happy, it is a big life altering step. i second guessed myself a few times after.  but each time i looked at my FI and asked myself if this is what i really want.  the answer is always YES!

i had 7 venues picked out to visit so when the ring came i would be ready(we talked about getting married in october/november)

so nothing was a surprise except the execution of the proposal which was amazing.

take a deep breath.  relax. go for a run. do yoga.  have a smoothie.

everything will be fine.

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