Post # 1
I’m part Korean and I’d like to incorporate some small aspect of my culture into our very American ceremony. How and where do you incorporate this?
I was thinking of the drinking ceremony (maybe using juice or water instead of wine if our location will not allow us to have wine, but I’d like to go buy traditional korean cups and whatnot from an asian store down the street that i buy food from) as something simple. My grandma on my mom’s side is Korean and cannot be there, so I thought this would be really nice. My FI’s sort of confused by it all, though. I don’t want to do a paebaek because I’m not "korean enough" to wear a traditional garment. I’ve never worn one before and I really want to keep my gown on. Thanks!
Post # 3
I did a Korean Wedding and here are some of the traditions that the bride incorporated into the ceremony:
- The groom gave a goose (not a live one but one made out of wood) to the new mother-in-law ( a symbol of fidelity/faithfulness to her daughter). Although traditionally it was supposed to take place around a table but they incorporated it into the program at the church and it turned out nice.
- They also did what you mentioned, the sharing of the white wine in which I believe was the highlight of the ceremony. And they also included what was called the "Peh beck" ceremony into their wedding as well. The bride had to offer her new in-laws a gift…it was dried something but I can’t remember the name…but I knew that it symbolizes "children". Even though they were suppose to offer tea back to her, they didn’t do it instead it was higs and kisses to make the ceremony shorter.
- At the end of the ceremony the family wanted to do the tossing of chestnuts fore the bride to catch in her wedding dress, but that wasn’t a go with the bride since she wanted to stick with some American aspects of the wedding to honor her husband as well.
I hope that this was somewhat helpful for you. Congrats on upcoming wedding Good luck & Happy Planning!
Post # 4
I am half Korean and we are just having korean wedding ducks. My mom is giving them to us and the officiant will explain that we keep them in our house and if they are facing each other then we are on good terms, if they are facing opposite directions then it means we are not on good terms. It is cute and simple. You can look up at the past korean brides on this site and they explain some of their korean wedding traditions. Mrs. Bee is one of them.
Post # 5
Oh, yeah the dried dates! LoL. I think if we did anything like that we’d have to definitely explain it to all our guests. And I don’t think our venue wants us throwing food and stuff. THey like to charge for every little clean up item. I mentioned the goose and duck thing to my FI and he just can’t wrap his brain around it. He’s like, "i should give your mom a goose?!?!?!" and I"m sure my mom would be like "what do i do with this knick knack?"
I"m thinking the wine ceremony will be nice. I should find a youtube video so we don’t just "wing it"