Post # 1
Ladies, looking for solace. I went to see my dress for the first time today – ordered back in April. I’ve only posted on here once before, that upon choosing my dress I felt like they rushed my measurements so much that I was convinced that it would be wrong. I even phoned the store the next morning to express my concern but they reassured me.
Well, I went to try it on today. I paid £150 extra to have it ‘special length’ so that they didn’t have to alter it with it being a lace/scalloped edge – and it is 2″ too long (I’m wearing 4″ heels). It is too big on the waist – not a problem, they can take it in – but it is way too tight across the bust/around the back. She did it up and I couldn’t breathe! I took a breath and heard a pop – I think the hook and eye at the top must have pinged off.
I’m wearing the Denia by la Sposa. I have quite an hourglass figure, and had this image of me walking towards my H2B, all demure and Jessica Rabbit. Because the top is so tight, it makes me look pear shaped and I feel like I’m in a sports bra! I discarded my bra to try and gain some more room (to no avail). They say that the seamstress will work wonders, but I swear I need another 2/3″ in the top – how can you gain that if it’s not already been taken in/not there to gain? I was so excited, and now I just feel deflated. My stunning dress just kinda feels ‘meh’. Anyone had the same problem? :o(
Post # 3
It doesn’t sound like anything that a talented seamstress can’t fix. Take a deep breath! BREATHE! It’ll be fine!
Post # 4
Take a step back and don’t worry! I have faith in every seamtress after seeing what one lady did for my BFF’s dress that came from the designer nearly completely opposite of the sample.
It will all be fine!
Post # 5
@Bazingau: Thankyou – breathing, breathing (but only because I can now I’m out of the dress).
I know it’ll be fine as I won’t settle for anything less (though I still can’t see where they can gain the extra from, but am being positive-ish), it’s just horrible feeling so deflated. What was soooooo beautiful just looked – ‘yeah, whatever’ (in my eyes). My Maid/Matron of Honor did well up as I came out, but I didn’t notice that as I was too busy trying not to faint with lack of oxygen! Let’s see what Saturday brings.
Post # 6
they made the mistake they will fix it, you might have to give them heck to make them fix it but they owe you a dress that fits if worst comes to worst they will have to order you a new dress thats fitted properly at their expense
everything will be fine 🙂
i bought my dress right from the store (floor model with 50% off) the size fit and it has a corset back so i feel like i have more flexibility with any possible figure changes lol but its sitting at my parents house and i haven’t put it on since so now im afraid since i didn’t really think of the length in the store i was just bedazzled by the dress lol
Post # 7
@Ellebot: I thought about them having to re-order (I would have preferred them to have ordered one size up and just take it in at the waist, but I figured they knew their job better than me), but this one took over 4 months to arrive, and the wedding is 5 weeks on Saturday! (YAY!). I hate falling out with people, as I always think that you don’t get the best out of them (and they do have to do the alterations!), but I just think a) I’ve already paid an extra £150 for special length and it’s too long, and b) somehow I don’t mind paying to take in the waist, but to let out the top too?! Surely it’s their mistake? We’ll see on Saturday. The shop owner nor the seamstress were in as they were at a bridal fair.
The girl in the shop did ask me if I could wear higher shoes!!!!! Erm……they’re already 4″, so NO!
With regards to your dress, if you bought the one that you fell in love with and didn’t feel like you were going to trip over it, I reckon you’ll be just fine! I kinda wish mine was a corset back (problem solved – liking your thinking!), but my only option was the zip fastening (faux buttons), and I sooooo love the ‘overskirt’ on the denia – nothing else would do for me once I’d seen it.
Post # 8
I swear, dress shops screw up measurements on purpose so they can charge more for tailoring. My dress shop tried to get me to order a size too big. I had to be really pushy and refuse so that they would order my correct size. Now I barely need any alterations to bring it in at the waist. It would need a ton of alterations if I got the size they recommended! Some stores won’t even LET you choose the size you order. It’s a racket.
Post # 9
@Tangled: I do agree with you! I think I would always need some sort of alteration because of my shape, but you’re so right – I had no option in the size they ordered, they just told me what I needed! It didn’t help that the store dress I tried on was 6 sizes larger than what I needed, so it was like I was wearing a tent anyway (cushions pushed down my back, clips, ladies holding on to it!), so I couldn’t even guage it as ‘ooh, one size down should do it’. Both myself and my Maid/Matron of Honor would have fitted in it!
It’s great that you stuck it out – yours sounds spot on.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry to hear!! I really did feel for you because although I haven’t tried on my dress yet, I’m also extremely concerned about whether they took my measurements correctly. when I tried on dresses, every shop was consistent wiht my measurements ; EXCEPT the shop I ordered from (who said my breast was one inch smaller, waist half an inch smaller, and hips one inch smaller). And they ordered a dress EXACTLY my size; which made me worry as it left no room for error.
They reassured me saying they could take it out if need be, but still, it does worry me…
Now the good news for you is that of the 3 problems 2 are relating to it being bigger/longer, and the 1 that seems to be a case of it being tighter, I do think that a seamstress can take out quite easily!
So if they say they can fix it; don’t worry, they’ll make you lose beautiful!!
Out of curiosity, it’s not a shop in South Florida by any chance is it?
Post # 11
@MrsWright: No. it’s not South Florida, I’m in the UK. I’ll let you know how it goes on Saturday. My sister just texted me to say that a wedding isn’t a weddding without a little dress drama. i hate drama!
Post # 12
@snaphappy: It shouldn’t be a problem to take it out a little at the bust. Honestly, they should be able to take it out at least a couple of inches without causing havoc.
The length I’d be furious about too. Have they offered to sort it for free? (You can shorten a lace hem like that, but it takes a lot of skill.)
Post # 13
@snaphappy: hahhaha unfortunately your sister is probably right… but like you, I too hate wedding dramas!!
And also like you; I live in the UK (london)! Small world huh? I got my dress in florida as I’m getting married there (mum lives there now).
Will keep you my fingers crossed for you but I know it’ll go great!!!
If you could let me know how it goes that’d be brilliant – it’ll help to calm some of my own nerves hehehehe
and show us a few pics too if you don’t mind – Denia looks GORGEOUS!
Post # 14
@MrsWright: Well, I went for my dress fitting on Saturday. Long story short – it is still too long despite me paying extra for a custom length. Because the Denia has a shaped edge, the seamstress has to detach the whole skirt from the bodice and shorten it from the top before reattaching – therefore (to me) losing almost 2″ of lace detail that the Denia has just below the bustline. Sigh – that I can live with. I also think that it may be a tad too short as she pinned it, but as I always like to find silver linings in life I’ve decided that if it is, then I shall wear my new blue shoes as my something blue – they have little unicorns all over them, tie with a pink bow and are 1″ shorter than my wedding heels. They sound yuck, but trust me are beauuuutiful!
The seamstress was really lovely. I think the way that the shop girl fastened me into it initially made it feel tighter than it was (she fastened it on the tightest one inside the dress instead of the loosest), and Mel (seamstress) seems to think that it’s fine. She has pinned it to take it in considerably at the waist, but it still feels like it sits too low on the bust (and I still feel like I can’t breathe). I want to keep hitching it up, and as yet I haven’t managed to find any underwear that doesn’t show at the top, and so I’m looking at going braless, but she may have to insert cups to keep a little bit of the structure as it goes all weird under the bust otherwise. I’ve decided that this dress isn’t meant for anyone with boobs. I wear a 28ff bra (UK) and measure 35-24-35. I’m hoping when I go back for the next fitting (oh yes – in 3 weeks time, which is 2 weeks before the wedding!) it will feel great, because if I’m being honest, the magic I felt when I chose it has gone. I just feel nothing. I’m very much thinking that I don’t really care about the dress so much. Yes it’ll look nice (nice – hmmph), and I want to look lovely walking towards my wonderful h2b because that’s all I care about – getting to him and marrying this wonderful man. In his eyes I could wear pyjamas and he’d love it. But as things stand at the moment – although money was no object because I’ve waited my life for this man and wanted to blow him away on the day – it feels ‘nothing’ at the moment and I just wish I hadn’t spent £1700 on it. Hopefully it’ll all come together next fitting, I’m just not hopeful (and I’m not a naturally pessimistic person). I’ll post pics next time.
Still smiling. Just :o)
Post # 15
@snaphappy: Thanks so much for the recent update; I loved reading it. Obviously, I didn’t love the fact that it still like they are a way away from making things right, but your sense of perspective and how you’re feeling about getting married.
Truth is; we so badly just want to look SO perfect for our other halves on that one special day that we put so much pressure on ourselves for everything to look so perfect and right. But on the actual day, he and you will probably be so caught up with emotion that he may not even notice what you’re wearing!
I can only imagine how you must feel and think it’s admirable how you’re trying to keep the sense of perspective. Like you said though; the hard part to deal is that after spending all this money, you’d think they’d be able to do what they were paid for!
Are they paying back any of hte money you paid for having it custom made? It’s the very least they can do.
I LOVE the idea of hte blue shoes. I have a friend did just that and it looked AMAZING! I was going to do that but decided to wear a champagne/golden sash so I couldn’t find something that matches. But I think it’d be gorgeous with your dress!
I think sawing in cups is a good idea bc if it has a low back , and if you feel it’s coming low, you may be worried all day about pulling the dress up because of your bra all day.
I can’t wait to see pictures though bc somehow I have a feeling that someone as positive as you will somehow manage to make the dress look gorgeous despite all the problems!